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October 30
I have read what you have said. I get updates from both the McCain and Obama websites. I have watched the news. I'm not a liberal. I'm not a conservative. I'm a moderate. I believe the answer is usually somewhere in the middle. This election hasn't really been about finding answers. It's been about marketing.
I know a little bit about marketing. I worked in advertising for ten years. Still, I can't think of one thing I have ever done because the media told me to.
I'm wondering ...
Why are the media and the public so amazed that the Republican Party would spend 150,000-dollars on clothes for Sarah Palin and yet, no one has asked ... Where is Obama getting MILLIONS of dollars to spend on advertising? Exactly WHO is financing this campaign?
I'm wondering ...
Obama hasn't been a Senator any longer than Palin has been a Governor and yet, the media says that we think Obama is ready to be President and Palin isn't ready to be Vice-President. What's the difference?
I'm wondering ...
Obama's former connections wouldn't clear an FBI background check and yet, the media says he is the man to be our President. None of us could even be a Federal employee with those connections. Doesn't that matter to anybody?
I'm wondering ...
I listen to NPR (National Public Radio) last week while I ran errands. They were interviewing foreigners and asking them who they wanted the next American President to be. A man from Arabia said Obama. A man from Jakarta said that he trusted Obama because even though he was a Christian, he knew Obama would be loyal to his Muslim roots. What? A man from Afghanistan said he wanted Obama too. That isn't exactly a ringing endorsement! Why would I or any other American vote with them?
I'm wondering ...
Obama is wearing an American flag pin now, but I saw the interview where he said he hasn't worn an American flag since 9-11 ... Why would someone STOP wearing a flag after 9-11? That's when most of us started flying our flags.
I'm wondering ...
The American public seems to believe that bringing the troops home will end the war. War isn't always up to us! What if they come after us? Do I want an inexperienced politician to be in control or do I want a guy who already knows what war is about? McCain and Palin have a very personal interest in what happens. They have sons in the military. They are invested. Obama doesn't know any more about foreign policy than Palin does! He thinks he can "just talk" to them. Wow! I bet nobody's ever thought of that!
I'm wondering ...
Liberals talk about the Republican Slime Machine but they are also the ones that have coined the marketing term "McSame", claiming that McCain is the same as George Bush. McCain is not George Bush any more than Obama is Rev Wright! I have personally observed George Bush and John McCain when they both came to our town. They are not the same kind of man.
McCain served our country in the military and later as a politician. He has made some hard choices that were good for our country but not necessarily good for him. He has the kind of character I want in my President.
I know this post won't be my most popular post. I know that some of you agree with me but you are afraid to say so. I don't expect to change anyone's mind. I am not trying to win anyone over. I have spent over three years talking about speaking authentically and I am simply practicing what I preach.
I can't vote for a guy who promises the moon, when he hasn't ever delivered the moon before. Why should I think he can do it now? Obama offers "change" and "hope", but he is only 1/3 of the equation. He can have all the ideas in the world, but if congress doesn't vote for them, they aren't happening.
That's another thing ... Democrats already have a majority in congress. What about checks and balances? Do I really want liberals to be writing checks on my bank account? In 50 years, the Democrats have taxed me more than the Republicans have! I am not interested in "spreading the wealth". I am interested in doing an honest days work for an honest wage, without having to pay too much in taxes.
Bottom line ... I have to vote for the guy who has already proven that he has the experience, the connections and the character to do the right thing. I trust McCain. I believe he really does have my back. I know that he will do the right thing because he has so many times before. I simply can not vote against a man who was tortured for our country. McCain has proven how much he loves our country and out of respect and admiration for his service, I have to stand with him. He is my kind of guy.
I like Sarah Palin. For years and years, I have heard Americans say that they wish they could have someone who was just like them in the White House. Sarah Palin is my chance to have that happen. She's not as polished as some. That's okay by me. I don't trust the slick politicians anyway. I like that Palin isn't afraid to challenge the status quo. I like that Palin is making the beltline politicians and talking heads nervous. That's my kind of gal!
This campaign has divided too many friends and family. It will not divide me from mine. I will continue to love my friends and family, no matter who they vote for, because that is what friends and family do. You all must vote with your conscience. Whatever reasons make up your mind for you are just as valid as mine are.
My name is Taylor and I approved this message.
October 22
This is a web-site of my friend, Chris Templeton. She is a breast cancer survivor.
Most people know her, still, as Carol Robbins Evans from the Young and The Restless. I never watched Young And The Restless much so I am surprised when people REACT to her as Carol.
Once, while on a road trip, we stopped at a small town gas station. I went to the rest room and was fnishing washing my hands when a woman came running in to the bathroom, screaming, "This is the best day of my life! Carol Evans from Young And The Restless is here in my town!" I could hear quite a crowd outside the bathroom and I went into "protective" mode. I knew that Chris had been on the soap opera, but like I said, I never watched soap operas much. Chris is a tiny little thing. She is a polio survivor and walks with a cane. I stood up straighter, buttoned my jacket and pretended to be a body guard as I walked up to Chris. "Miss Templeton, would you like me to escort you to the car?"
Chris smiled and nodded her head. I pushed the crowd aside and walked her to the car, opened her door, locked it and went around to the driver side.
We drove away. We were both quiet for a few minutes before I said, "Okay, tell me about this soap opera thing again." She laughed and said that she had been a character on Young And The Restless, and most of that time, Young And Restless was one of the top rated soap operas. I guess that explains the excitement and loyalty of her fans.
For me, Chris has always been more than a character on a soap opera.
She is from the Midwest and grew up with a lot of the same values that I did. There is something gritty about Midwestern women ... the pioneer spirit lives on in most of us, but it shines in some. Chris shines. She has spent most of her life in a wheelchair or walking with a cane. There was a time that people would have called her disabled, but because of people like Chris, public awareness has grown and disabled today means something a lot different than what it used to mean.
I admire her intelligence, her kindness, her empathy, her sense of humor and the way she deals with whatever life deals her, including her fight with (and winning) breast cancer.
She blogs ... just like us!
Christopher Templeton Blog
Here is an excerpt from one of her posts:
"’It's been 5 years. I've learned a lot, I've tried a lot. I think that prayer, food and attitude are the most important things. I think God is in control but I also think that you can take ownership of your body –it’s your temple, your responsibility. It’s like the little man sitting on the roof of his house surrounded by flood waters. People came by boat, helicopter and even a small pontoon plane asking to help and he keeps telling them that God is going to be his rescuer. Well, he dies. He goes to heaven and asks God, “why didn't you save me?” God replies, “I sent a boat, a helicopter and a plane – what more did you want?” You don't know what God will use to bring your healing to come to pass. Keep open, keep praying and keep trying. Some times healing is emotional and spiritual rather than physical. Remember, He will give you nothing that you can't handle. We have no idea what His purposes are for our lives. All we can do is take every day as a gift. All I can guess is that my purpose has been to educate people – to show them what I have learned and maybe help someone by example. I truly feel that was my purpose in Hollywood. After all, I was one of the first people with a disability to be on television long-term. But that’s another story!"
In one way or another, I have always thought of Chris as a survivor and an advocate ... an advocate of HOPE.

THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE.
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. - Eleanor Roosevelt
The only courage that matters is the kind that gets you from one moment to the next. - Mignon McLaughlin
My cancer scare changed my life. I'm grateful for every new, healthy day I have. It has helped me prioritize my life. - Olivia Newton-John
During chemo, you're more tired than you've ever been. It's like a cloud passing over the sun, and suddenly you're out. You don't know how you'll answer the door when your groceries are delivered. But you also find that you're stronger than you've ever been. You're clear. Your mortality is at optimal distance, not up so close that it obscures everything else, but close enough to give you depth perception. Previously, it has taken you weeks, months, or years to discover the meaning of an experience. Now it's instantaneous. - Melissa Bank
Women agonize... over cancer; we take as a personal threat the lump in every friend's breast. - Martha Weinman Lear, Heartsounds
The human spirit is stronger than anything that can happen to it. - C.C. Scott
WE MUST NEVER GIVE UP.
September 30
The Magic Of Blogging:
The sharing of joy, whether physical, emotional, psychic, or intellectual, forms a bridge between the sharers which can be the basis for understanding much of what is not shared between them, and lessens the threat of their difference. - Audre Lorde
September 24

If you are "feeling older", This could cheer you right up!
I,__________________, being of sound mind and body, do not wish to be kept alive indefinitely by artificial means. Under no circumstances should my fate be put in the hands of pinhead politicians who couldn't pass ninth-grade biology if their lives depended on it, or lawyers/doctors interested in simply running up the bills. If a reasonable amount of time passes and I fail to ask for at least one of the following:
Glass of wine Chocolate Margarita Sex Martini Bubble bath Cold Beer Chocolate Chicken fried steak Cream gravy Sex Italian food Chocolate French fries Chocolate Pizza Sex Ice cream Cup of tea Chocolate Creme brulee Chocolate Sex Chocolate
It should be presumed that I won't ever get better. When such a determination is reached, I hereby instruct my appointed person and attending physicians to pull the plug, reel in the tubes, let the 'fat lady sing,' and call it a day!
September 23

There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be no community without vulnerability; there can be no peace, and ultimately no life, without community. - M. Scott Peck
Responsibility does not only lie with the leaders of our countries or with those who have been appointed or elected to do a particular job. It lies with each of us individually. Peace, for example, starts within each one of us. When we have inner peace, we can be at peace with those around us. - The Dalai Lama
Peace is the deliberate adjustment of my life to the will of God.
For everything there is a season, And a time for every matter under heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; A time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; A time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together; A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing; A time to seek, and a time to lose; A time to keep, and a time to throw away; A time to tear, and a time to sew; A time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate, A time for war, and a time for peace.
- Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
If you have LOVE, you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have.
- Sir James M. Barrie
True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.
- Erich Segal
Few fall in love by choice, but by CHANCE. Few fall out of love by chance, but by CHOICE.

He who has not looked on Sorrow will never see Joy. - Kahlil Gibran
... joy and sorrow are inseparable ... together they come and when one sits alone with you, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed. - Kahlil Gibran
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven? - Kahlil Gibran
We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them. - Kahlil Gibran
September 22
I don't know any hiker/camper/kid that hasn't used these bottles. Our family takes them on trips, camping, boating or anywhere else that we don't want to worry about broken glass.
The following articles contain words like birth defects, heart disease, diabetes and cancer. After reading the articles, I will probably make a few changes in our household. It's up to us to safeguard our family's health. I am not sharing these article to alarm anyone. I have always believed that knowledge is power. I also believe that the market is demand driven. If consumers request new, safer products, companies will have no choice but to fill consumer needs.
When large retailers started pulling Nalgene products from their shelves, Nalgene responded by offering a BPA-free line. The Nalgene bottles are manufactured in the United States, so I will probably replace the bottles I have with new Nalgene bottles. Another "green" option would be to recycle glass drink bottles by washing them, dunking them in boiling water and refilling them with filtered water from my house.
Plastics Linked to Health Risks in Humans By RICARDO ALONSO-ZALDIVAR and LINDSEY TANNER, AP
WASHINGTON (Sept. 16, 2008) -- Federal regulators on Tuesday defended their assessment that a chemical widely used in plastic baby bottles and in food packaging is safe, even as the first major study of health effects in people linked it with possible risks for heart disease and diabetes.
"A margin of safety exists that is adequate to protect consumers, including infants and children, at the current levels of exposure," Laura Tarantino, a senior Food and Drug Administration scientist, told an expert panel that has been asked for a second opinion on the agency's assessment of bisphenol A or BPA.
Note: Please However, a study released Tuesday by the Journal of the American Medical Association suggested a new concern about BPA. Because of the possible public health implications, the results "deserve scientific follow-up," the study authors said. Using a health survey of nearly 1,500 adults, they found that those exposed to higher amounts of BPA were more likely to report having heart disease and diabetes.
But the study is preliminary, far from proof that the chemical caused the health problems. Two Dartmouth College analysts of medical research said it raises questions but provides no answers about whether the ubiquitous chemical is harmful.
FDA officials said they are not dismissing such findings, and conceded that further research is needed. "We recognize the need to resolve the concerning questions that have been raised," said Tarantino. But the FDA is arguing that the studies with rats and mice it relied on for its assessment are more thorough than some of the human research that has raised doubts.
The JAMA article was released to coincide with the FDA scientific advisers' hearing.
The FDA has the power to limit use of BPA in food containers and medical devices but last month released its internal report concluding that BPA exposure is not enough to warrant action.
Since then, another government agency released a separate report concluding that risks to people, in particular to infants and children, cannot be ruled out.
Past animal studies have suggested reproductive and hormone-related problems from BPA. The JAMA study is the largest to examine possible BPA effects in people and the first suggesting a direct link to heart disease, said scientists Frederick vom Saal and John Peterson Myers, both longtime critics of the chemical.
Still, they said more rigorous studies are needed to confirm the results.
Vom Saal is a biological sciences professor at University of Missouri who has served as an expert witness and consultant on BPA litigation. Myers is chief scientist at Environmental Health Sciences, a Charlottesville, Va., nonprofit group. They wrote an editorial accompanying the JAMA study.
BPA is used in hardened plastics in a wide range of consumer goods including food containers, eyeglass lenses and compact discs. Many scientists believe it can act like the hormone estrogen, and animal studies have linked it with breast, prostate and reproductive system problems and some cancers.
Researchers from Britain and the University of Iowa examined a U.S. government health survey of 1,455 American adults who gave urine samples in 2003-04 and reported whether they had any of several common diseases.
Participants were divided into four groups based on BPA urine amounts; more than 90 percent had detectable BPA in their urine.
A total of 79 had heart attacks, chest pain or other types of cardiovascular disease and 136 had diabetes. There were more than twice as many people with heart disease or diabetes in the highest BPA group than in the lowest BPA group. The study showed no connection between BPA and other ailments, including cancer.
No one in the study had BPA urine amounts showing higher than recommended exposure levels, said co-author Dr. David Melzer, a University of Exeter researcher.
Drs. Lisa Schwartz and Steven Woloshin of the Dartmouth Institute for Health Policy and Clinical Practice said the study presents no clear information about what might have caused participants' heart disease and diabetes.
"Measuring who has disease and high BPA levels at a single point in time cannot tell you which comes first," Schwartz said.
The study authors acknowledge that it's impossible to rule out that people who already have heart disease or diabetes are somehow more vulnerable to having BPA show up in their urine.
The American Chemistry Council, an industry trade group, said the study is flawed, has substantial limitations and proves nothing.
But Dr. Ana Soto of Tufts University said the study raises enough concerns to warrant government action to limit BPA exposure.
"We shouldn't wait until further studies are done in order to act in protecting humans," said Soto, who has called for more restrictions in the past.
An earlier lab experiment with human fat tissue found that BPA can interfere with a hormone involved in protecting against diabetes, heart disease and obesity. That study appeared online last month in Environmental Health Perspectives, a monthly journal published by the National Institutes of Health.
Government toxicology experts have also studied BPA and recently completed their own report based on earlier animal studies. They found no strong evidence of health hazards from BPA, but said there was "some concern" about possible effects on the brain in fetuses, infants and children.
Several states are considering restricting BPA use, some manufacturers have begun promoting BPA-free baby bottles, and some stores are phasing out baby products containing the chemical. The European Union has said that BPA-containing products are safe, but Canada's government has proposed banning the sale of baby bottles with BPA as a precaution.
Copyright 2008 The Associated Press.
Don't Buy A Nalgene Water Bottle Until You Read This by Lloyd Alter, Toronto on 04.16.08
Dangers of Nalgene water bottles and other plastic sport water bottles
Many Nalgene water bottles and other hard plastic sport water bottles are made of polycarbonate (#7 on the bottom) , which may leach Bisphenol A, an estrogen-like chemical. Canada is considering a ban of products containing Bisphenol A (BPA) and a new American study links it to breast cancer and early puberty, and is particularly concerned about the effect on babies. Others have raised concerns about the effect of feminizing hormones on men, such as breast enlargement or dropping semen counts. At the same time, sport water bottles are ubiquitous and we don't want people going back to buying bottled water. What should you do? Time to nix the Nalgene? We looked at our past posts and the latest reports, and suggest the following.
7 Ways to beat BPA, in order of Importance:
1. Ditch the clear plastic baby bottles, right now. All the research that says there are problems point at the effect of the estrogen-like BPA on children as being the most significant. 2. Tin cans are often lined in plastic BPA and sit around a long time; get rid of older tin cans, particularly if they contain tomatoes and other acidic fruits. 3. Don't use your poly-carbonate bottle for hot drinks. 4. Poly-carbonate bottles get crazed and cracked as they get older; that increases surface area. Get rid of old ones. 5. Replace your Poly-carbonate bottle with a Sigg, Kleen Kanteen, or the new BPA free Camelbak, particularly if pregnant or pre-pubescent. 6. Replace jugs where water sits around a long time, like Brita knockoffs. (Brita says they are BPA free) 7. Stop using jugged water cooler water, get a filter and cooler that uses city water. It is a big jug so there probably isn't much of a problem, but why are you drinking bottled water anyway?
Don't worry about poly-carbonates in non-food related products like CDs and DVDs. but keep them out of babies' mouths.
Update From Nalgene Site:
In recent years, studies have suggested that polycarbonate plastics such as the ones Nalgene used may leach endocrine disruptors. Nalgene denies that the quantity leached from their products posed a significant threat to health. Among the secreted chemicals, Bisphenol A (BPA) is an area of concern as it binds to estrogen receptors, thus altering gene expression. Other research has found that fixatives in polycarbonate plastics can cause chromosomal error in cell division called aneuploidy. Nalgene claims these chemicals are only potentially released from Nalgene products when used at temperatures outside of the designed range.
In November 2007, Mountain Equipment Co-op removed all hard, clear polycarbonate plastic water bottles (including Nalgene-branded product) from their shelves and no longer offers these items for sale. In December 2007, Lululemon made a similar move. In May 2008, REI removed Nalgene-branded polycarbonate water bottles and replaced them with BP-A free Nalgene bottles.
On April 18, 2008, Health Canada announced that Bisphenol A is "'toxic' to human health". Canada is the first nation to make this designation. On the same date Nalgene announced it would phase out production of its Outdoor line of polycarbonate containers containing the chemical Bisphenol-A (BPA). Nalgene’s current product mix, includes the recently launched Everyday line and the original polycarbonate bottles made from materials that do not contain BPA.
September 03
At my son's graduation, there was an older woman ... not dressed in black or linen white ... In fact, she was wearing pink with a pink hat and bright pink lipstick ... and I thought, that's the kind of woman I want to be when I am that age. People stopped to speak to her as she moved through the crowd, but no more or no less than the rest of us. She had a presence that was, for lack of a better way to say it, unusual.
I stood up and pretended to take a picture of everyone at the other end of the table, but I had the zoom pointed at her. She seemed to see me taking the picture and turned to face me while she continued to talk to the gentleman next to her.
I didn't think much about it until yesterday when I was transferring pictures to a disc to have them developed ... I smiled again ... I haven't seen anyone wear their hair curly and swept to the side like that since Elly Mae Clampett ...
Wait a minute! No way! Could that have been Elly Mae?
I googled Elly Mae Clampett (Donna Douglas) and one of the first pictures to come up was this one:
Now, you tell me ... Same hair, same lipstick, same shirt (pink must be her favorite color) ...
Did Elly Mae Clampett attend the same graduation that we did?
I called Joey into the room ... He agreed. Same woman. I called my son and said, "Some people have presidents attend their graduations, but you might have had Elly Mae Clampett, and she is way better than any president! Joey and I laughed at the coincidence ... me being close enough to take the picture, but not recognizing her until two weeks later ...
Still, it was a pretty cool coincidence, don't you think so?
July 26

Film Festival and Jordan Hayes, star of Speedland
What an amazing few days we have had here on the Creek!
On Thursday, our family journeyed to a nearby town where we attended a small film festival that featured a independent movie starring my nephew, Jordan Hayes.
Okay, right off, I will admit to being totally prejudiced. My eyes filled up with tears more than once to watch the little boy I remember (seems like just yesterday) playing a role in a movie. We think Jordan looks like a cross between Nicholas Cage and Matthew McConaughey. Jordan did a great job. The camera loves him almost as much as we do! It was fun to watch his film and to see him operating in "actor mode".

Jordan Hayes (and his cousin Sara-pictured below)
We got in late so my daughter stayed here rather than drive an hour up the mountain. We went shopping the next day ... How does a small list turn into an all day affair? LOL ... Oh well, we had a blast! Last night, my grand daughter came over to spend the night and after playing all day, I am here to say ... Yup, I am most certainly MISSING IN ACTION, but I have a really good excuse!!! Days of Thunder Theme - Hans Zimmer July 02
I really like the show TOUCHED BY AN ANGEL. Occasionally, I catch an episode that touches my heart in a way that stays with me for days. Recently, I watched an episode called SUCH A TIME AS THIS. The story was about ...
In the middle of the African desert, Andrew snaps photographs of Sudanese slaves toiling in the hot sun ...
Back in the United States, young Thomas Cooper is upset that his mother, Senator Katherine Cooper, has to return to work in Washington D.C. Monica is horrified to see the pictures that Andrew took, and wonders why the angels aren't in the Sudan. Tess indicates that Thomas is the little child that will lead them there.
In Washington, Dr. Jospeh Akot, working with Andrew and Monica, approach Kate about the problem of slavery in the Sudan, but Kate, espousing the Sudanese government's position, denies its existence. They persuade her, however, to keep the pictures, and she relents, stuffing them into her briefcase. Back home Thomas discovers the disturbing pictures and reads Dr. Joe's letter, which says that slaves can be bought and sold for fifty American dollars. Thomas is moved by one of the pictures in particular, of a small Sudanese boy, who Thomas names Sam after his older brother who died before Thomas was born. Thomas pleads with Kate to rescue Sam, but she tells him that the issue is too complicated.
Thomas sneaks the picture of Sam and takes it to school, where Tess, his substitute teacher, encourages him to talk about it during "show and tell." Led by Thomas, and with the help of Dr. Joe and the angels (Andrew, Monica and Tess), the class begins to raise funds to buy the freedom of Sudanese slaves.
Meanwhile, Kate, facing a tough re-election campaign, is given the financial support of a large candy company, on the condition that she remain uninvolved in Sudan, a country that, if undisturbed, will continue to manufacture candy ingredients at a low cost.
This makes the situation particularly tough for Kate when Thomas and the childrens' efforts receive media interest. She argues with her husband James, who supports Thomas, thereby embarrassing Kate. Their fight comes to a head when James accuses Kate of never forgiving him for the death of their son, Sam, who died because they never had health insurance. Indeed, Kate wears a locket with a picture of Sam in it around, tormenting James everyday.
Kate argues that if she supports Thomas, she may not be re-elected, and then she cannot help anyone. She returns to Washington and receives criticism for her son's actions from her campaign contributors.
Monica arrives with James and Thomas, who gives his mother the several thousand dollars he raised to travel to the Sudan and purchase slaves. Still Kate refuses to go, crushing Thomas' hopes of rescuing Sam, and inciting her politically uninvolved husband to vote -- against her.
Kate angrily confronts Monica for helping with this effort. Monica reveals herself to be an angel and tells Kate that she is the one God is calling to go to the Sudan to witness the abuses.
It's Monica's words to the Senator that have been ringing in my ears the past few weeks:
Kate: There is a bigger picture and I am making a difference in it. What has it all been for?
Monica: God wants you to go (to the Sudan).
Kate: Why would God send an angel?
Monica: Because you are the one, Kate. You're the one who has to see the horror when helpless people can't defend themselves. You're the one who has to pay the money to redeem a human being from the closest thing to hell that there is on earth. You're the one who has to come back and say, "Yes, I've proved it. People are in bondage over there ... right now. Today, You're the ONE to tell the ones who take their freedoms for granted. You're the one who can shape policy for an entire nation ... Maybe, the world. You're the ONE, Kate. The world may not know it. The slaves of the Sudan may not know it, but I know it and I can't leave here until you know it too.
Kate: You're asking me to give up every thing I have worked for.
Monica: You could lose everything. Yes. You could be killed tomorrow in the Sudanese Desert. It's not always easy to do the thing God asks us to do.
Kate: I am so afraid.
Monica: I know. Do you remember the story of Ester? Ester was the Queen of Persia, but she had a secret. She was Jewish, and she kept her secret until one day, she discovered the entire Jewish nation was about to be wiped out. She had the power to prevent it but she was afraid to come forward, afraid she would lose her throne, perhaps even her life ... and then ... someone said to her, 'Who knows? Maybe, this is what it's all for? Perhaps you were brought to the kingdom for JUST SUCH A TIME AS THIS?' You are the one, Kate, and I'll let you in on a little secret from heaven ... Sooner or later, everyone is THE ONE. They just have to say YES when the time comes ...
Convinced, Kate travels with the angels and Dr. Joe to the Sudan, and buys the freedom of many slaves. When all of the money is spent, Kate sees one captive person left -- Sam, the little boy from Thomas' picture -- and tearfully exchanges her precious locket for the boy's freedom. Back in the U.S., James and Thomas are proud to hear that Kate has publicly testified to the existence of slavery in the Sudan.

SUCH A TIME AS THIS - by Wayne Watson from his album The Way Home. Click here to get it now!
Now, all I have is now To be faithful To be holy And to shine Lighting up the darkness Right now, I really have no choice But to voice the truth to the nations A generation looking for God
Chorus: For such a time as this I was placed upon the earth To hear the voice of God And do His will Whatever it is For such a time as this For now and all the days He gives I am here, I am here And I am His For such a time as this
You - Do you ever wonder why Seems like the grass is always greener Under everybody else's sky But right here, right here for this time and place You can live a mirror of His mercy A forgiven image of grace
Can't change what's happened till now But we can change what will be By living in holiness That the world will see Jesus
Repeat Chorus: For such a time as this I was placed upon the earth To hear the voice of God And do His will Whatever it is For such a time as this For now and all the days He gives I am here, I am here And I am His For such a time as this
I don't know when my time will come ... when I will be the ONE, but I know, in my heart, that I look every day for my chance to jump in. I don't believe I will have to go to a foreign land when there are so many needs in my own town and this is where I am.
I am not talking about the little things that we do everyday because that's what good people do ... I'm talking about that day when no one else will do!
In the tapestry of life, there will come a time where He will reach for the thread that is me (and you too)! I believe that everything in our life has meaning, the good and the bad. We are aged to perfection by our joys and our sorrows. We are being prepared for that day when He calls on us to be THE ONE, the perfect hue of me and you!
I can hardly wait!
May 30 My kids and I had all watched the same show ... Lester Holt and his camera crew, searching for a lost crystal skull ... Lester Holt And The 'Mystery of the Crystal Skulls' ... It all sounded quite "Indiana Jones" ... but part of the show was a discussion of the Mayan Calendar that claims 12-21-2008 will be the end of life as we know it.
Say what?
I found this site where an man calling himself simply, "John", has done an incredible amount of work!
Warning: If this exploration causes you anxiety, please stop reading. I, personally, do not believe that we have anything to fear. My attitude is, "What an exciting time to be alive!" but not everyone will feel that way. For that reason, I have included the Bible verses in red. It is a common context for most of us and can be a source of great comfort when we are facing uncertain times. Thanks.
I have included all the links so you can explore them further on your own if you wish to. In some cases, I copied and pasted portions that were of additional interest to me, but there simply was too much information for me to include it all here.
December 21 2012 "101"
This is a note from the man who created this site:
When I first started developing my website December212012.com it quickly became very obvious to me that I was on to something big. Like most people I had a passing knowledge and basic understanding of the Mayan aspect of the December 21 2012 end date and their remarkable ability to monitor time and space. What I quickly learned was that there is much more to the 2012 equation. It seemed that the more I learned, the more fascinated I became with the realities and predictions surrounding this moment in time.
As I continued to research and learn as much as I possibly could about the 2012 end date, and just as importantly, the events leading up to this date, a lot of things started making sense to me, especially as they relate to current day world events. As a Christian, I have a deep-rooted need to believe in the word of the Bible. My simple faith in a higher power has seen me through a lot of life’s obstacles, and my ability to at least consider the possibilities of that which I do not completely understand have made me a more open-minded person.
If as Christians we can give credence to such seemingly ridiculous Bible stories as Adam and Eve, Noah’s Ark and the fact that Jesus lived, dies and will someday return, then why is it so hard for these same Christians to completely ignore the signs set forth in the Book of Revelation? How is it possible to have faith in “what was”, and totally discard “what will be”?
It’s not my intention to completely represent the December 21 2012 end date and the events leading up to this day solely from a Christian or Biblical standpoint; it’s so much more than that. Sure, to some extent it’s a religious thing, but more than that it’s a sociological thing, it’s an environmental thing, it’s a universal thing, it’s a political thing and it’s a scientific thing. Let’s face it, our world, our mere existence is in complete and total turmoil. We live in a time of acceptable disregard for human life and simple dignity. Our society accepts the fact that we live in a world of very well defined classes and the gap between the haves and have-nots is getting wider and wider every day. We are politically, morally and socially corrupt. We completely ignore the signs that earth is a fragile ecosystem that needs protecting, and we continue to use and abuse our planet for our own selfish reasons.
I'm sure that by now many of you are saying to yourselves, here’s another bleeding heart, tree hugging liberal with yet another end-time prediction like so many others that have came and gone before. Well, you could not be further from the truth. In fact, I am very happy with my life, and like many of you, I simply do not question what I can not change, so I justify my existence with my own passive attitudes and tolerance. I can clearly see the signs before me, but there is absolutely nothing I can do about it, so I simply hope and pray that I am leading my life to the best of my abilities.
What we have to understand is that we are now where we once were. We have reached a point in our existence that our survival depends on our ability to understand where we have been and what lies ahead. Perhaps we are dealing with a higher power of some sort, or perhaps our planet and universe are entering into an evolutionary cycle that is once again coming around full circle. Whatever the reasons are, we are definitely in for some major changes in the near future. No one knows for sure what exactly is going to happen on December 21 2012, or in the days leading up to that day. What we do know for sure is that things are changing, and not necessarily for the good of mankind.
I will attempt to explain in plain English what the Mayan’s and their long count calendar have revealed. What other ancient cultures such as the Hopi Indians, Egyptians and Chinese believed. I will explain the astrological events expected to take place on December 21 2012 at exactly 11:11 universal time, and why Albert Einstein among others believe that a poll shift will accrue leading to massive earthquakes and tsunamis.
It should be noted at this point that December 21 2012 is not just another end-time prediction. This date marks a moment in time that has been foreseen and foretold by a variety of ancient cultures throughout the world, each without knowledge of the other. In addition and at the very same time, we will be witnesses to not one, but two astronomical events that have not taken place for 26,000 years. Many believe that absolutely nothing will happen on this date. Other see this as the coming of the end of the world, and still other believe that we are in for some sort of physiological change. Never the less, there is absolutely no doubt that something is on our horizon, and it is up to each and every person to decide for themselves what they believe.
December 21 2012 "101"
General Information
Will The Earth Burn Up In 2012? There has been much talk of late about the supposed doomsday prediction of December 21, 2012 as reflected in the Mayan long calendar ...
Once before because of its sin the earth was destroyed by water in the Great Flood of Noah's day but the Bible says that the world will be destroyed again, this time by fire.
"The present heavens and earth, by His word, are being reserved for fire, kept for the Day of Judgment and the destruction of ungodly men" (2Peter 3:7).
"But the day of the Lord will come like a thief in which the heavens will pass away with a roar and the elements will be destroyed with intense heat and the earth and its works will be burned up" (2Peter 3:10).
"The sun scorched men with fire" (Revelation 16:8).
"A third of the earth was burned up and a third of the trees were burned up and all the green grass was burned up. A great mountain (asteroid?) burning with fire was thrown into the sea and a third of the sea became blood and a third of the creatures which were in the sea and had life died and a third of the ships were destroyed. And a great star (comet?) fell from heaven burning like a torch and it fell on a third of the rivers and springs of water (Revelation 8:7-11).
"The inhabitants of the earth are burned and few men are left" (Isaiah 24:6).
"The hills melt and the earth is burned up" (Nahum 1:5).
Once again, many have associated December 21, 2012 with a shift in the poles as well as signs in the sky. What does the Bible tell us about these events?
"The stars will fall from the sky" (Matthew 24:29).
If the earth shifts on its axis and we are thrown around, the stars will appear to fall but it will actually be us that are moving.
"The earth is broken asunder. The earth is split through. The earth is shaken violently. Thee earth reels to and fro like a drunkard and it totters like a shack "(Isaiah 24:19-20).
Once again a shift in the polar axis might tear the earth apart.
"There will be great earthquakes. The sun became black like sackcloth; the moon became like blood.The stars of the sky fell to the earth... The sky split apart like a scroll when it is rolled up.every mountain and island moved out of their place' (Revelation 6:12-14).
More shaking of the earth.
"There will be great earthquakes and in various places plagues and famines and there will be terrors and great signs from heaven. There will be signs in the sun and the moon and stars and upon the earth great dismay among nations in perplexity at the roaring of the sea and the waves. Men fainting from fear as the powers of heaven will be shaken" (Luke 21:9, 25-26).
Here we see the Bible tell us about signs in the heavens spoken of in relation to December 21, 2012. But what do we do when we see these things happening?
"When you see these things happening, recognize that the kingdom of God is near. Truly I say to you that this generation will not pass away until all things take place.But when these things begin to take place straighten up and lift up your heads because your redemption is drawing near" (Luke 21:31,32, 28).
God assures us that:
"Heaven and earth will pass away but My words shall not pass away" (Matthew 24:35).
Some people ask why God takes so long to punish the ungodly:
"The Lord is not slow about His promise as some count slowness but is patient toward you not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance (2Peter 3:9).
Remember this as the end fast approaches.
2012 : What's All The Fuss About?? Everyone hears about the different prophecies on how humanity will end. From the Bible predictions of the rapture and the Antichrist, to Nostradamus's prediction of the Planet Comet, people hear theories and see evidence of our civilization coming to an end.
Margaret Emenegger on Indigo Children and other new world issues “According to prophecy the fifth sun of the fifth world of the Mayan calendar moves into ascension on December 21, 2012. This date represents a gateway of planetary development that will open humanity to new ways of living and a new world of opportunity ...
Atwater stated that in her research she discovered these kids “suddenly know things unknown to them previously even complex scientific and mathematical epistemologies.”
For example, they are able to solve engineering problems without knowing how they did it …and then are accused of cheating. They fail in mathematics, physics and engineering classes because they can't delineate how they arrived at their answers, Atwater says.
Get a copy of “Dumbing Down America” and “Why Johnny Can’t Read.” Then read Eugene Schwatz’s “Millennial Child, Transforming Education in the Twenty First Century.” Waldorf is the ideal school model. It’s Waldorf updated. Schwartz is available to educate and advise those who crave change. Sounds like a good idea.
One third of our kids are so-called visual-spatial learners and cannot learn or struggle valiantly with the left-brained audio approach to reading and spelling. Get a copy of “Upside Down Brilliance, The Visual Spatial Learner.” These kids learn visually and quickly. Remember, they are acutely intuitive.
As for traits of "Indigo Children", I've already mentioned high I.Q., acute intuition, self confidence, resistance to authority, disputing commands when forced, irreverent to societal dogmas, spiritual not religious, in other words they may shun organized religion.
The universe is enhancing our natural gift of visualization at this time so, now is the time. Here are some suggestions.
1. No more mandated, unwanted inoculations for any citizens young or old. They are not what you were told. Consult Leonard Horowitz, one of my personal heroes. He’s a true light worker (www.tetrhedron.com). It will shock you, but you need to know.
2. Let’s get fluoride out of our water supply, the same way it got in, by voting.
3. Let’s get homeopathic doctors into our town. Better yet, let’s encourage a clinic to treat all childhood ailments affecting the “new kids".
4. Do not allow the government (the ‘secret government,’ the real government) to inject us with a biochip. Check out David Icke (www.davidicke.com). It will poison your dreams, but we need to wake up or lose everything we hold dear. Hello 666.
5. Create a new kind of school for “new kids.” Difficult but possible. The law is the way.
The Shift in Human Consciousness Are you aware that a Shift in human consciousness is occurring even as you read these words that employs celestial triggers such as supernovas and Earth's alignment with Galactic Center in the years leading up to 2012 to trigger the evolution of our species?
The Meaning of the December 21, End Date The ongoing debate over the true Mayan calendar “endtime” date, be it December 21, 2012 or otherwise, is irrelevant to the actual “endtime” implications.
December 21, 2012: Judgment Day Science can neither confirm nor discredit the validity of many religiously or prophetically deemed judgment days of the future, the soonest of which will be arriving December 21, 2012, the final day of the Mayan Calendar ...
In light of so many unrelated sources pinpointing the same relatively small span of time for a cataclysmic event to occur, many scientists are carefully tracking the numbers and severities of today's natural disasters and comparing them closely to the past. In Revelations, as the world as we know it nears its final days, natural disasters are on the increase. According to the U.S. Geological Survey, a government funded organization, in the 1900's there were 110 earthquakes large enough to cause 1000 or more deaths throughout the world. Breaking the century down to first half and second half, there were exactly fifty-five earthquakes of this magnitude during the first fifty years. There were also exactly fifty-five earthquakes during the second fifty years of the 1900's. So they have not increased in numbers. However, using the number of deaths as a determining factor in history is irrelevant because of the growth and greater densities of the population as time progresses. The great San Francisco earthquake of 1906, for example, caused 3,000 deaths. With today's population, that same earthquake could easily be responsible for 30,000 deaths.
Hurricanes and tropical storms are also being closely tracked. According to the National Hurricane Center, the United States had more hurricanes in the first half of the 1900's than the second half by twenty-three, but the percentage of those hurricanes that were ranked in the most severe categories rose from 32% to 39% in the latter half.
On the most recent years, CNN News reports that a record number of storms hit the U.S. in 2005. The seasonal average for named storms is ten. Six of those are hurricanes and two of those are major. In 2005 alone, there were a record twenty-seven named storms, thirteen of which were hurricanes, and seven of which were major. That puts over 50% of the hurricanes into the higher categories, a dramatic increase from the last century.
Another natural phenomenon going on right now that scientist and governments alike are very concerned about that could potentially cause the realization of the Mayan prediction regarding the fate of the earth, is global warming, or more specifically, the melting of the earth's ice caps. CBS NEWS reported on February 19, 2006, that the ice caps have been frozen for more than 100,000 years but will have melted by the end of this century. "Temps in the arctic are rising twice as fast as they are in the rest of the world" (Bill Owens).
Bob Corell, one of the world's top authorities on climate change, recently joined with 300 scientists from eight countries and put together The Arctic Climate Impact Assessment. Their reported conclusion was, "The entire planet is out of balance...In 10 years, here in the arctic, we [will] see what the rest of the planet will see in 25 or 30 years from now." Corell adds, for CBS News, that sea levels which have risen 10 inches over the last century will have risen an additional three feet during the next 100 years. The result of this would cause the lowlands in virtually every country in the world to be under water. The Netherlands would simply no longer exist.
On August 23, 2005, the India Daily Technology Team, released a study about the overall condition of our planet, stating "The tectonic plate shifts, underwater volcanoes, earthquakes, landslides and Tsunamis are increasing at rates never seen before...The number of floods and droughts has increased beyond imagination in the last ten years." The numbers in some cases are indeed up, but in most there is little change. However, the intensity or magnitude of these natural disasters has most definitely increased and currently show no signs of changing this trend.
The increased severities of these storms and earthquakes, as well as the predicted melting of the ice caps, are all natural phenomenon that may be taking place as part of the natural cycle of the solar system. Just as every summer melts away the winter snow and ice, the rising temperatures here on earth could be a part of a change of seasons in the solar system. Since the end of this cycle occurs December 21, 2012, it stands to reason that a new cycle will begin on December 22, 2012. We know that the solar system, as well as the planet we live on, has been through this cycle countless times in its billions of years of existence. We also know that the earth has been through many of these cycles without falling off its axis. Since the ice caps are not predicted to melt completely for another century or so, and the new solar season begins in less than six years, it is quite possible that the new season could begin to correct these natural phenomena before they contribute to the destruction of life on this planet as we know it. It is virtually impossible to know what daily or even yearly changes in the earth's climate may have taken place in the last decade or two before the end of the last solar cycle 5,119 years ago.
Something cosmic may indeed happen on December 21, 2012, but all we need to do is look back a few years to 1999 when the world held its breath as the calendar shifted to a new century. People were stocking up on supplies and preparing for a world-wide economic collapse just before the turn of the century based purely on the suspicions of a few paranoid folks in power. By 2010, the paranoia that the Maya's might be correct will undoubtedly reach discussion levels to equal the intensity of Y2K, if not surpass it. But without concrete scientific evidence that the structure of time is going to change as in the Mayan prediction, or that the earth is going to change its rotation or orbit around the sun in less than six years, in my opinion, we will more than likely see another prophesied judgment day come and go once again. Then after a collective, global, sigh of relief, we will undoubtedly shift our attention to the next potential judgment day in 2040 when all nine planets of our solar system line up in a straight line for the first time in hundreds of thousands of years.
(to be continued)
May 29
What an interesting weekend we had!
SATURDAY
Joey and I went to the mountains on Saturday. We stopped at one of our favorite bar-b-q spots. It was raining a bit so we lingered for a while, watching people and talking about current events.
What a little paragraph to describe a third of my life!
Joey is all the things a husband should be but he is also my friend. We talk about the most interesting things. In the beginning, Joey was old south conservative and I was midwest liberal. He preferred sounding sensible and I loved to make his eyes bug out by saying something completely off the wall ... but little by little, he was less shocked and more amused, even siding with me on some issues ... and little by little, I started to listen to his explanations and adopted some of his ideas as my own.
Today, there isn't any mind I'd rather pick than his. Today, it's my feelings that matter most to him. If a stranger were to listen to us talk when it was just the two of us, they would hear the kind of speech that only happens between two people who have been speaking for a very long time. We have words that hold meaning that only the two of us know. We dance and swirl around each other's thoughts, adjusting our pace and movement when the music changes, but here we are, dancing still.
We almost lost each other. We gave up on each other for a while. Sometimes, love renewed has a magic all it's own. There's the comfort of knowing one another but the knowledge that if we aren't careful, everything could disappear like a puff of smoke ... It makes NOW too precious to waste.
We stopped at a few mountain stores and found a treasure or two or three.
I had iced coffee and Joey had sweet tea. We laughed and held hands and talked about growing tomatoes and benches and window boxes and exchanged memories on a little town's street.
Life is good.
SUNDAY
Joey got up early and made us breakfast. The smell of coffee woke me up.
We ate breakfast on the back porch with the birds and the sound of the creek. When the leaves are thick, our little woods turns into an exotic rain forest with those caw-caw-caw and eee-eee-eee sounds of birds. We talked about our day.
Joey wanted to mow the front lower yard, the front upper yard and the back meadow too.
I had to clean the back room and get some things ready for the kids to pick up.
I had a little excitement. I was cleaning and rearranging bird feeders and wind chimes, tightening screws and adjusting chain when I slipped and pulled the tip of the needle nose pliers across my forehead at an angle. I dug the most amazing gouge! It bled gloriously. After I put peroxide and neosporin on it, I looked like I had been in one heck of a good prize fight! I'm glad I have bangs!
It gave me such a headache.
Joey and I cooked together in prep for the kids coming the next day. I made potato salad and Joey made some of his famous chili for the burgers.
I had a cup of tea and we went to bed early.
MONDAY
Joey and I got up early and began to make preparations for company. Have you ever noticed that chores are easier on a holiday?
Everyone got here around noon. We had grilled burgers/cheeseburgers with potato salad, chips and drinks ... nothing fancy. We got the kids fed and then we all sat at the table in the dining room. We talked through lunch and sat at the table for another hour or two, with the conversation floating from one subject to another. It was a LOT of fun.
One of the most interesting conversations was about a show they had seen on the DISCOVERY CHANNEL. I didn't see the show, but I found a web-site that seemed to say a lot of what they explained to me. Here it is:
 5 Natural Disasters Headed for the United States By Jim Gorman Source: http://www.popularmechanics.com
Earth is one rough place. Even the most devastating storms of recent years pale in sheer destructive power against outsize natural disasters of the past, such as continent-smothering ice sheets, ocean-raising floods, super volcanoes and the occasional asteroid. Because cataclysms will always be a regular feature of life on Earth, PM consulted with leading scientists to detail five more disasters that may be in store. Some will be beyond human control; others could be disasters of our own making. Either way, prepare for a real doozy.
40-Mile-Long Mudslide, Washington State Movin' Mountain
On an overcast afternoon high on Mount Rainier, a rocky slope slumps and then cuts loose from the mountain. Small rock slides are common on the volcano's steep flanks, but this one is different. Most of Mount Rainier's west face is in motion. Into the tumbling maelstrom go millions of tons of ice from the Puyallup and Tahoma glaciers. House-size rocks disintegrate in the downward crush. “With Rainier's active hydrothermal system saturating the rock, the landslide would reach the base of the slope as a flowing mass of watery, muddy debris,” says Kevin Scott, scientist emeritus at the U.S. Geological Survey's Cascade Volcano Observatory (CVO).
So a lahar is born--a volcanic mudflow--and a nightmare realized for the approximately 150,000 Washington residents who live and work on the solidified debris of past flows. The mass of roiling mud, rock and trees, traveling at 60 mph, would quickly funnel into the canyons of the Puyallup and Carbon rivers, where it would rise 180 ft. high before spreading into the lowlands as a 15-ft. wave. The 5000 residents of Orting, at the rivers' confluence, would have less than 45 minutes to evacuate. People downstream, in towns such as Puyallup and Sumner, might have twice that long.
Despite its iconic standing, 14,410-ft. Mount Rainier is pocked with corroded, unstable rock capped by a cubic mile of ice and snow. The mountain--weakened from the inside out by acids resulting from upwelling magma--has partially collapsed many times in the last 5600 years, unleashing mudflows that have inundated five of six major drainages. Six of those lahars surged at least 45 miles to reach Puget Sound.
The USGS gives a 1-in-7 chance of a similar event occurring in anyone's lifetime. And, says Dan Dzurisin, a CVO geologist: “There's no guarantee there would be any advance warning.”
80-Ft.-High Tsunami, Atlantic Coast Coast Buster
 A massive collapse of Cumbre Vieja in the Canary Islands would cause a tsunami to radiate all the way across the Atlantic Ocean to the East Coast. PHOTOGRAPH BY J. SCHWAKE/ALAMY
Cumbre Vieja, the most active volcano in the Canary Islands, lurches as a violent earthquake wracks its upper slopes. A third of the mountain breaks away and plunges into the Atlantic Ocean, pushing up a dome of water nearly 3000 ft. high. They don't yet know it, but tens of millions of Americans from Key West, Fla., to South Lubec, Maine, have just 9 hours to escape with their lives.
The collapse of Cumbre Vieja unleashes a train of enormous waves traveling at jetliner speed. The first slam into nearby islands, then the African mainland. By the time they reach the East Coast of North America, the waves are up to 80 ft. high, and in low-lying areas, sweep several miles inland.
When tsunamis strike the United States, it is usually Hawaii or Alaska that take the hit. But topography and population density put the East Coast in a special risk category. “More Easterners are exposed to potential tsunamis--from the Canary Islands or the Cape Verde Islands--than the people on the West Coast, which has a steep coastline and few lowlands,” says Steven Ward, a geophysicist at the University of California, Santa Cruz. A Cumbre Vieja eruption in 1949 opened a mile-long, 20-ft.-deep fissure near the crest, forcing the volcano's western face to slump several feet. A 1971 eruption didn't budge it.
Marine geologists at Southampton Oceanography Center in Great Britain have a different take. They conclude the volcano would collapse in stages-- at worst threatening nearby islands. Ward calculates only a 5 percent chance Cumbre Vieja will trigger a tsunami in a given century, but that when it does a chunk of earth 15 miles long, 9 miles wide and nearly 1 mile thick will plunge into the sea--a landslide 250 times larger than the collapse of Mount St. Helens.
 The tsunami's probable trajectory within 5 hours of the collapse of Cumbre Vieja.
The tsunami's potential range of destruction 9 hours after the collapse of Cumbre Vieja
Magnitude 6.9 Earthquake, Mississippi River Valley Stress Test
 The New Madrid Seismic Zone, which extends into five states, is part of a rift that formed more than 500 million years ago when tectonic forces began pulling the continent apart.
Ten miles beneath Caruthersville, Mo., stress along an ancient rift zone releases in a violent spasm. Shock waves from the magnitude 6.9 earthquake roll 160 miles up the Mississippi River Valley to St. Louis, and 75 miles downriver to Memphis, Tenn. The soils under Memphis ripple like a shook rug. Century-old brick buildings heave, then crumble. Sewer and water lines rupture. Gaslines snap. Downtown, the 14-story federal building, a decade overdue for quakeproofing, rains 3-ton panels.
While all eyes are fixed on California as the site of the next “Big One,” damage from a quake along the New Madrid Fault--which runs for 150 miles between Marked Tree, Ark., and Cairo, Ill.--may be greater. The hot, shattered crust beneath California absorbs seismic energy quickly and focuses it at an epicenter, says Gary Patterson, a geologist at the University of Memphis. But, he says, “the relatively hard, cold slab of rock beneath the central U.S. allows that energy to travel great distances.” A quake's impact zone is at least 10 times larger on the New Madrid Fault than on the San Andreas, and its shock waves reverberate longer.
The New Madrid Fault has produced the strongest earthquakes in the contiguous states: three tremors near magnitude 8.0 that struck from December 1811 to February 1812. Odds of a quake of that scale are small: 7 to 10 percent in the next 50 years. But factor in unprepared citizens and infrastructure and even a 6.0 earthquake, which has a 25 to 40 percent chance of occurring, would be a disaster.
“There's a lot about the New Madrid we don't know,” Patterson says. “But what we do know is very concerning.”
195-MPH Hurricane, Florida Tropical Terror
Packing maximum sustained winds of 195 mph, Hurricane Lyle slams into Coral Gables just south of Miami. The breadth and intensity of the storm dazzles meteorologists, who rank it the strongest hurricane ever to hit the U.S. mainland.
On the north side of the storm's eye, Miami Beach, which has the second highest housing density in the country, is in shambles. Many residents don't evacuate, believing they are safe in concrete high-rises. They are wrong. Then it is too late, as the causeways connecting them to the mainland wash out. Waves riding a 15-ft. storm surge gut oceanfront condos up to the third story; windows blow out, allowing wind and rain to ravage upper floors. The storm surge sweeps over the island, carrying wreckage into downtown Miami, where the 70-story Four Seasons Hotel and Tower is reduced to a sodden shell.
 Low-lying coastal areas would be hit twice by a supercharged storm—as waves rushed in and then back out. PHOTORAPH BY WARREN FAIDLEY/CORBIS
Block after block of homes in Coral Gables, West Miami and Sweetwater--many not yet retrofitted to the tough codes imposed after Hurricane Andrew in 1992--are blasted down to roofless frames. Waist-deep floodwater inundates areas as far north as Fort Lauderdale. Insured losses exceed $100 billion--nearly twice the amount caused by Katrina--making Lyle the costliest natural disaster in U.S. history.
Katrina should have been a wakeup call, but coastal development has continued unabated, exposing the 4 million people in Florida's Miami-Dade and Broward counties to deadly monster storms. Warm water is rocket fuel for hurricanes, and global warming is predicted to heat tropical oceans by 4 F in the next century. Sea surface temperatures in the tropics have already risen by about 1 F since 1970.
Researchers at Georgia Tech and at the National Center for Atmospheric Research in Boulder, Colo., have measured a near doubling in the annual number of Category 4 and 5 storms during the past 35 years. And Kerry Emanuel, professor of meteorology at MIT, has found that Atlantic storms today wield twice the destructive force as those in 1970.
 Wind speeds increase with altitude, and so a Category 4 storm at ground level can be a full category higher at the top of a building. While the storm surge scours the first two stories, overpressure blows out windows in the highest floors, exposing the interiors to wind and rain.
Some scientists dispute the global warming-hurricane connection. They attribute the intensity of recent hurricanes to natural cycles, or they contest the accuracy of early data and the objectivity of techniques used to analyze it.
Supercharged or not, hurricanes promise to wreak unprecedented damage in the decades ahead for one simple reason: More people have put themselves in harm's way. Coastal zones from Texas to North Carolina have gained 24 million residents since 1950.
Climate-Changing Ocean Disruption, North Atlantic Sea Change
Winters in the Northeast begin to bite with a ferocity last seen during the deep freezes of 1936 and 1978, when icebreakers plied the Mississippi and Hudson rivers. Winter temperatures in Washington, D.C., begin to approximate those of Boston. Extreme drought grips the Midwest, sending grain commodity prices soaring; crops fail and farmers spin into bankruptcy. Climate patterns go haywire. London, Paris and the Scandinavian capitals shiver through their coldest winters since 1850. Summer monsoons in India and China weaken, affecting harvests that feed hundreds of millions of people. Fisheries decline when plankton populations collapse. Drought and flood push worldwide agricultural losses to $250 billion.
The cause of the big chill is an unlikely culprit: global warming. The northeastern States, eastern Canada and, primarily, Europe enjoy warmer climates than they otherwise would because of an ocean-based system of heat delivery called thermohaline circulation. This vast ocean conveyor sweeps warm, salty water from tropical latitudes north along the surface. After shedding heat to the atmosphere, the chilled brine becomes denser and sinks. Thousands of feet beneath the surface it flows back toward the equator, completing the loop.
Freshwater melt from the Greenland ice sheet contributes to a layer of buoyant water that is beginning to cap the North Atlantic Ocean. PHOTOGRAPH BY BLICKWINKEL/ALAMY
But as the climate warms disproportionately at the poles, the gears of the system begin to wobble. Freshwater runoff from Greenland's ice cap and from melting glaciers across the Arctic, combined with increased precipitation, could form a thick, buoyant cap over the North Atlantic. Already, the great gyre may be sputtering. The surface of the North Atlantic is becoming noticeably less salty, and thus less driven to sink.
Thermohaline circulation shut down as recently as 8200 years ago, and some scientists contend that the Little Ice Age of 1300 to 1850 was due to a hiccup in the system. The chance of another collapse is hotly debated. Terrence Joyce, a senior scientist at Woods Hole Oceanographic Institution, calls it “unlikely” if Greenland's ice cap continues to melt at the current pace. However, “Greenland is a wild card,” he says--its melt rate remains unpredictable. Michael Schlesinger, an atmospheric scientist at the University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign, calculates a 45 percent chance of the system shutting down in the next century if nothing is done to slow global warming.
 Cold, dense water typically sinks near the Arctic and flows in deep currents to the equator. When this cycle is disrupted, warm water is not pushed as far north along the surface.
Ice core samples indicate the switch from temperate to bitter could be measured in mere years--and last for centuries. The timing of such an event will determine the severity of its consequences. “If the shutdown happens 100 years from now, it will bring us back to where we are now, canceling 4 to 6 F of atmospheric warming [predicted] in the Northeast,” Joyce says. “If it happened tomorrow, that would be something more significant.”
I am curious to hear your take on it. What do you think?
While searching for this to show you, I researched something else we talked about yesterday. I'll continue my part of this conversation tomorrow ...
May 01
The TRUTH about SEARCH ENGINES
If you could make a huge difference in a blogger's business,
Would you?
It's easy!
Let me explain. One of the way Google Search works is that the more websites (blogs count) that link to a store site, the more it forces the site to the TOP of the search engine.
That means if each of us - some of us - all of us link to Heliotrope ...
We directly increase the number of people who will see Biggie T and Marc's store and the more people that see it ...
The more people that will shop there ...
and they have some GREAT Mother's Day Gift ideas ...
So what do you say?
Let's make their day! Simply copy this post and paste it to your blog. Feel free to shop too!
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April 24

Whether Carol Burnette was "bumping up the lights"; acting out a sketch with Harvey Korman, Tim Conway or Vickie Lawrence; or belting out a Tarzan yell; you just knew that you knew that you knew you were going to laugh hard for the next hour!
Carol Burnett was born in San Antonio, Texas in 1933 to alcoholic parents. She and her younger sister, Chrissy, moved to a Hollywood boarding house with their grandmother to escape a volatile home life.
Blessed with a talent for the imaginary, Burnett graduated from Hollywood High School and then attended UCLA, working her way through bit parts on television. Her aspirations to act were discouraged by her mother, who thought she could write. Carol’s mother died before seeing her debut.
In the 1950s, Burnett was noticed for a comic novelty song and appeared on the Paul Winchell Show in 1955. She also appeared in a short-lived sitcom with Buddy Hackett and as a regular on the game show, Pantomime Quiz. Burnett married Don Saroyan in 1955, but the marriage only lasted seven years and produced no children.
Carol’s first success came in 1959 when she appeared on Broadway in the musical “Once Upon a Mattress.” She also became a regular on The Garry Moore Show that same year and continued until 1962. She won an Emmy in 1962 for her performance on the show for portraying a number of characters, including the cleaning woman that would become her alter-ego. This led to her performing as a headliner with Julie Andrews at Carnegie Hall.
In 1963, Carol wed Joe Hamilton, a TV producer and divorced father of eight. Carol and Joe had three daughters together before divorcing in 1984.
Comedienne Lucille Ball took an interest in Burnett and had her as a guest on The Lucy show several times before offering her a sitcom produced by Desilu. Burnett declined, deciding on a variety show instead. So, in 1967 the Carol Burnett Show debuted and was a huge success.
The Carol Burnett Show included cast members Tim Conway, Harvey Korman, Lyle Waggoner and Vicki Lawrence. It ran for 11 years, garnered 22 Emmy Awards and numerous additional Emmy nominations every year of its run. The sketches were comical and memorable, including spoofs of Went with the Wind and As the Stomach Turns. One, Mama’s Family, was eventually spun off as a series for Lawrence.
The variety show kicked off many Carol Burnett trademarks, including her famous Tarzan yell, performed during many shows, and the closing of the show with an ear tug – a message to her grandmother that she was doing fine. Her grandmother died during the show’s run.
Carol starred in other works while doing the variety show, including Pete ‘n’ Tillie in 1972. She also appeared in Friendly Fire, Life of the Party: The Story of Beatrice, The Four Seasons, Annie, and Noises Off.
Burnett also kept her contact with theatre appearing in I Do, I Do! with Rock Hudson and in Stephen Sondheim’s Follies. She also continued her television work, by guest starring in Mama’s Family and Mad About You. She has most recently appeared in Desperate Housewives.
In 2001, Burnett married Brian Miller, a drummer in the Hollywood Bowl Orchestra who is twenty-five years her junior. In 2002, she lost her daughter Carrie to lung and brain cancer at the age of 38. Burnett and Carrie had collaborated on the play Hollywood Arms, based on Burnett’s memoir, One More Time. Mother and Daughter also played mother and daughter in an episode of Touched By An Angel.
In 1998, Burnett served as Grand Marshall of the Rose Parade; was a recipient of the 2003 Kennedy Center Honors; received the Medal of Freedom from President Bush in 2005 and was the subject of an American Masters profile in 2007. ~ Carol Burnetts
Carol Burnette Quotes
This has been one of the best times of my life, to meet you and spend time in the town my grandmother told me so much about.
People invite me to dinner not because I cook, but because I like to clean up. I get immediate gratification from Windex. Yes, I do windows.
It will be fun. I just think it's so campy.
But I didn't ask to have somebody nose around in my private life. I didn't even ask to be famous. All I asked was to be able to earn a living making people laugh.
Comedy is tragedy plus time.
When someone who is known for being comedic does something straight, it's always "a big breakthrough" or a "radical departure." Why is it no one ever says that if a straight actor does comedy? Are they presuming comedy is easier?
Celebrity was a long time in coming; it will go away. Everything goes away.
I wish my mother had left me something about how she felt growing up. I wish my grandmother had done the same. I wanted my girls to know me.
Giving birth is like taking your lower lip and forcing it over your head.
It's also selfish because it makes you feel good when you help others. I've been helped by acts of kindness from strangers. That's why we're here, after all, to help others.
Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me
My grandmother and I saw an average of eight movies a week, double features, second run.
Well, I don't know how astute I am, but I did want to be a journalist when I was growing up.
We don't stop going to school when we graduate.
Adolescence is just one big walking pimple.
When you have a dream, you've got to grab it and never let go.
Words, once they are printed, have a life of their own.
Because nobody goes through life without a scar.
You have to go through the falling down in order to learn to walk. It helps to know that you can survive it. That's an education in itself
I have always grown from my problems and challenges, from the things that don't work out, that's when I've really learned.
I think we're here for each other.
I don't have false teeth. Do you think I'd buy teeth like these?

The funniest scene in comedy - Carol playing Scarlett O'Hara in a DRAPED dress designed by Bob Mackie

We used to hoot out loud when Carol would play the silent movie star with her eyes WIDE open

There was a little bit of all of us in the washer woman who would dream ...
Tim Conway Quotes
As a kid I was short and only weighed 95 pounds. And though I was active in a lot of Sports and got along with most of the guys, I think I used comedy as a defense mechanism. You know making someone laugh is a much better way to solve a problem than by using your fists.
Carol [Burnett] is a wonderful, giving person; she had a personal interest in everyone around the show, including the stagehands and the ushers. And then we didn't do a lot of rehearsal, so the material stayed fresh. It was really a lot like doing a live show.
Both Harvey [Korman] and I like to keep in touch with Carol [Burnett]. We try to see her at least once a month, because she's got a drive-Up ATM window at her house. And we like to go and pick up some cash.
Don Knotts was a really big influence, especially on the Steve Allen Show. I mean, look at the guy, his entire life is in his face.
I don't watch a lot of TV anymore. A lot of it isn't the kind of thing you can feel comfortable with watching with your kids. And I still feel that way even though, now, my kids are in their 30s.
I like to work a lot with wood. I make furniture that falls apart. I also sew. I love doing my own material.
I've never really taken anything very seriously. I enjoy life because I enjoy making other people enjoy it.
Harvey Korman Quotes
Funny is when you're serious.
I got canceled in the middle of making the pilot.
You have to have a certain persona to be a star, you know, and I don't have that. I'm a banana.
So I've got a reputation for being the straight man, and I've worked with the best.
Although in Abbott and Costello, and straight man was first. That's a very interesting concept.
And I'll tell you somebody else who was a straight man and considers himself a straight man and describes himself as one, Cary Grant.
Don't - those writers used to love us. They would write these little plays, and we would take care of the comedy. It really seldom was joke jokes.
FROM THE CAROL BURNETTE SHOW ...
Carol Burnett can do it all. She sings and dances, she does comedy and drama. She endures.
The long running Carol Burnett show had some standard bits. Carol and the guest star would come out first and answer audience questions.
Then there would be the marvelous sketches. Who can forget Carol Burnett and Harvey Korman sitting on the porch in their rocking chairs wondering what went wrong in life. Or Carol and Harvey bickering with and about their daughter played by Carol Lawrence.
They made fun of TV and movies. My favorite sketch was the "Gone With the Wind" spoof where Carol comes downstairs with a drapery rod across her shoulders and drapes hanging from them. Another popular one was "As the Stomach Turns," a parody of a soap opera.
Carol Burnett is perhaps best remembered however, ending the show by tugging on her ear.
Carol Bradford: When we were first married you wanted my meatloaf five nights a week. Roger Bradford: When we were first married there were a lot of things I wanted five nights a week.
as Thelma "Mama" Harper: [Vicki improvises a line that was not scripted] You ain't right in the head, Eunice. I think somebody blew your pilot light out! as Eunice Harper: [Carol is caught off guard and quickly turns away trying to compose herself and not fall out of character] That's a *new* one, Mama! as Thelma "Mama" Harper: [without missing a beat] Well, you just wait, there's more! as Eunice Harper: [clasping her hands over her face to hide her laughter] Oh, no! as Thelma "Mama" Harper: You've got splinters in the windmills of your mind!
Ed: [playing the game sorry and Eunice is losing] Slliiiiiide! Eunice: Oh, will you shut up!
Housekeeper: [After the Cunningham's have entered a scary castle] Go away. For three hundred years, no strange person has been inside this castle. Mrs. Cunningham: You wanna bet?
Hallaba: You're going to be bitten by a verevolf. Mrs. Cunningham: A verevolf? [Screams] Hallaba: Yes. Bevare the volfman will bite you tonight. Oy, are you gonna get it. Mrs. Cunningham: Oh, no! Is a verevolf bite painful? Hallaba: It's about the same as the bite from a wampire.
Reginald: [To Gwendolyn] Now listen to me, you little fool. As far as everyone is concerned, father's death was purely... Ms. Marble: [Ms. Marble in the background] Murder! Reginald: [Nervous] Murder? Murder, you say? Ms. Marble: [Comes into the living room] Murder, murder, murder. Bloody, bloody murder. Gwendolyn: You mean to say our father was murdered? Ms. Marble: No, I mean to say my girdle is killing me. Reginald: Ms. Marble, I really must insist you stop snooping around. I simply will not tolerate a busybody. Ms. Marble: Busybody? Busybody, you say? My body hasn't been busy in over 40 years.
Audience Member: How old are you now? Vicki Lawrence: I dunno! Harvey Korman: I’m 77, and I can still go to the bathroom by myself! Tim Conway: The amazing thing is, he’s doing it right now!
Mama's Family was a spin off starring Carol Burnett as Eunice and Vickie Lawrence as Mama
Naomi: And just what is wrong with the way I dress? Mama: Well, good Lord! If that blouse was any lower, it would be a skirt!
Mama: I'd be uncomfortable, too, if I were dressed in that get-up. Naomi: Just what is wrong with my attire? I've always found this outfit very suitable for religious occasions. Mama: That's 'cause you got to pray to God it stays up!
Naomi: Wait a minute now, I've told you repeatedly that this check stand is ten items or less. Mama: Well, I know that, but look--I got bread, milk, fruit, meat and vegetables. That's five items. Naomi: I know, but you got six kinds of vegetables here, and each one counts as an item. Mama: Well I've also got a loaf of bread--you gonna count every slice? Naomi: The point is, this is the express lane. Mama: Well quit expressing yourself and start checking!
I really tried very hard to find scripts or snips of some of those wonderful skits ... I wish I could have found one of Mrs. Hwiggens ... or just one of Tim Conway cracking Harvey Korman up ... or the other way around.
Update: I did find two YouTube Videos ... They are in the comment section. I especially like the one with Tim Conway as the dentist. I'm still looking for Mrs. Hwiggins!
If you ever have a chance to watch an old video or catch a late night rerun or even a commemorative, stop what you're doing and take the time. You'll be so glad you had the time together ...
April 23
It was the time for cowboys and every kid dreamed of "the old west". Every little girl hoped she marry a man just like Hoppy, Roy, and Gene (Hopalong Cassidy, Roy Rogers, Gene Autry) someday and every little boy wished he was one of those cowboys.
I didn't know a kid who didn't ask for a palomino like Trigger (Roy Roger's horse) every Christmas, even though most of us knew we wouldn't get one ... it never hurt to ask.
My Dad was an auctioneer so he wore cowboy hats and boots. We knew our dad was a good guy so one of us kids asked him one day, "Dad, were you a sheriff in the old West?" The memory of it still makes me smile today.
COWBOY QUOTES
Never approach a bull from the front, a horse from the rear, or a fool from any direction.
Don't squat with your spurs on.
Don't judge people by their relatives.
When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
Talk slowly, think quickly.
Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll enjoy it a second time.
Don't interfere with something that ain't botherin' you none.
Timing has a lot to do with the outcome of a rain dance.
It's better to be a has-been that a never-was.
The easiest way to eat crow is while it's still warm.
The colder it gets, the harder it is to swaller.
If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin'.
If it don't seem like it's worth the effort, it probably ain't.
It don't take a genius to spot a goat in a flock of sheep.
Sometimes you get and sometimes you get got.
The biggest troublemaker you'll probably ever have to deal with watches you shave his face in the mirror every morning.
Never ask a barber if you need a haircut.
If you get to thinkin' you're a person of some influence, try orderin' somebody else's dog around.
Don't worry about bitin' off more'n you can chew; your mouth is probably a whole lot bigger'n you think.
Always drink upstream from the herd.
Generally, you ain't learnin' nothing when your mouth's a-jawin'.
Tellin' a man to git lost and makin' him do it are two entirely different propositions.
If you're ridin' ahead of the herd, take a look back every now and then to make sure it's still there with ya.
Good judgment comes from experience, and a lotta that comes from bad judgment.
When you give a personal lesson in meanness to a critter or to a person, don't be surprised if they learn their lesson.
When you're throwin' your weight around, be ready to have it thrown around by somebody else.
Lettin' the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier than puttin' it back.
Always take a good look at what you're about to eat.
It's not so important to know what it is, but it's sure crucial to know what it was.
The quickest way to double your money is to fold it over and put it back into your pocket.
Never miss a good chance to shut up.

ROY ROGERS - "King of the Cowboys"
- Born: 5 November 1911
- Birthplace: Cincinnati, Ohio
- Died: 6 July 1998 (heart failure)
- Best Known As: Star of TV's Roy Rogers Show
Name at birth: Leonard Slye
Roy Rogers was called the "King of the Cowboys" during his long career as a folksy singing hero of movies and TV. He was an original member of the cowboy singing group The Sons of the Pioneers, and in 1937 he signed on with Republic Pictures, replacing their departing star Gene Autry. He starred in more than 80 westerns with titles like The Arizona Kid (1939) and In Old Cheyenne (1941). He often co-starred with cowgirl Dale Evans, whom he married in 1947. Rogers's famous horse was Trigger, a Palomino stallion with flowing white mane who became a favorite with Rogers's fans. In the 1950s Rogers moved into TV with the The Roy Rogers Show. His theme song with Dale Evans was the gentle and cheery "Happy Trails to You."
Rogers was elected to the Country Music Hall of Fame twice, as an individual in 1988 and with the Sons of the Pioneers in 1980... His is no relation to the blues guitarist Roy Rogers... It's true: after Trigger's death, the horse was mounted and put on display at the Roy Rogers Museum in Victorville, California. The museum (and Trigger) moved to Branson, Missouri in 2003... Rogers lent his name to the Marriott Corporation for the successful Roy Rogers chain of fast food restaurants; the first outlet opened in 1968.
QUOTES:
We were so far back in the woods, they almost had to pipe in sunlight.
You couldn't beg, borrow, or steal a job in 1931, 1932, ... It was really tough.
I did pretty good for a guy who never finished high school and used to yodel at square dances.
People are always asking me why they don't make Westerns like they used to.
The world changed. Hollywood changed. I think we've lost something, and we don't know how to get it back.
Today they're making pictures that I wouldn't want Trigger to see.
Give a lazy man a job, and he'll find a lazy way to do it.
We'd put some zip to it, add some character, some identity.
"They'll have to shoot me first to take my gun."
Cowboys weren't allowed to kiss girls in pictures, so one time I gave Dale a little peck on the forehead and we got a ton of letters to leave that mushy stuff out ... So I had to kiss Trigger instead.
We make up most of our history around here, ... Codger.
When my time comes, just skin me and put me up there on Trigger, just as though nothing had ever changed.
If I could teach the kids to identify and appreciate their natural environment, then they will have a sense of place and care about Weston.
RIDER'S RULES by Roy Rogers
1. Be neat and clean. 2. Be courteous and polite. 3. Always obey your parents. 4. Protect the weak and help them. 5. Be brave but never take chances. 6. Study hard and learn all you can. 7. Be kind to animals and take care of them. 8. Eat all your food and never waste any. 9. Love God and go to Sunday school regularly. 10. Always respect our flag and our country.
Until we meet again, may the good Lord take a liking to you.
The epitaph on his gravestone: The Cowboy's Prayer Oh Lord, I reckon I'm not much just by myself. I fail to do a lot of things I ought to do. But Lord, when trails are steep and passes high, Help me to ride it straight the whole way through. And when in the falling dusk I get the final call, I do not care how many flowers they send-- Above all else the happiest trail would be For You to say to me, "Let's ride, My friend." Amen Roy Rogers (Sunset Hills Memorial Park, Apple Valley, California)

DALE EVANS - "Queen of the West"
- Born: 31 October 1912
- Birthplace: Uvalde, Texas
- Died: 7 February 2001 (heart failure)
- Best Known As: Partner of singing cowboy Roy Rogers
Name at birth: Frances Octavia Smith
Dale Evans was a movie actress who starred with wholesome singing cowboy Roy Rogers in a series of 1940s westerns. The two were married in 1947 and from then on appeared as a popular pair in movies and on TV. Evans wrote the song that became their very popular theme: "Happy Trails to You." Evans's movie horse was Buttermilk, the counterpart to Rogers's horse Trigger.
Buttermilk, like Trigger, was mounted after death and put on display in the Roy Rogers - Dale Evans Museum. The museum was originally located in Victorville, California, but was moved to Branson, Missouri in 2003.
QUOTES:
Christmas, my child, is love in action. Every time we love, every time we give, it's Christmas.
Every day we live is a priceless gift of God, loaded with possibilities to learn something new, to gain fresh insights into His great truths.
Who cares about the clouds when we're together? Just sing a song and bring the sunny weather.
I lay in the bed at the hospital and said, 'let's see what I have left.' And I could see, I could speak, I could think, I could read. I simply tabulated my blessings, and that gave me a start.
Happy trails to you, until we meet again.
For More: Happy Trails Forever™ - Honoring the *King of the Cowboys* & *Queen of the West*, Roy Rogers & Dale Evans - Home Welcome to The Official Roy Rogers - Dale Evans Website
April 22

"If by chance some day you're not feeling well and you should remember some silly thing I've said or done and it brings back a smile to your face or a chuckle to your heart, then my purpose as your clown has been fulfilled."
~ Red Skelton, 1913 - 1997
Born in Vincennes, Indiana, Skelton was the son of a Hagenbeck-Wallace Circus clown named Joe who died in 1913 shortly before the birth of his son. Skelton himself got one of his earliest tastes of show business with the same circus as a teenager. Before that, however, he had been given the show business bug at age ten by entertainer Ed Wynn, who spotted him selling newspapers in front of the Pantheon Theatre, in Vincennes, Indiana, trying to help his family. After buying every newspaper in Skelton's stock, Wynn took the boy backstage and introduced him to every member of the show with which he was traveling. By age 15, Skelton had hit the road full-time as an entertainer, working everywhere from medicine shows and vaudeville to burlesque, showboats, minstrel shows and circuses.
While performing in Kansas City in 1930, Skelton met and married his first wife, Edna Stillwell. The couple divorced 13 years later, but they remained cordial enough that Stillwell remained one of his chief writers.
Skelton caught his big break in two media at once: radio and film. In 1938 he made his film debut for RKO Radio Pictures, in the supporting role of a camp counselor in Having Wonderful Time.
Skelton was hired by Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer to lend comic relief to its Dr. Kildare medical dramas, but soon he was starring in comedy features (as inept radio detective "The Fox") and in Technicolor musicals. When Skelton signed his long-term contract with MGM in 1940, he insisted on a clause that permitted him to star in not only radio (which he had already done) but on television, which was still in its early years; studio chief Louis Mayer agreed to the terms, only to regret it years later when television became a serious threat to the motion picture industry.
Skelton was drafted in March 1944, and the popular series was discontinued June 06, 1944. Shipped overseas to serve with an Army entertainment unit as a private, Skelton led an exceptionally hectic military life: in addition to his own duties and responsibilities, he was always being summoned to entertain officers late at night. The perpetual motion and lack of rest resulted in a nervous breakdown in Italy. He spent three months in a hospital and was discharged in September 1945. He once joked about his military career, "I was the only celebrity who went in and came out a private."
In 1945, he married Georgia Davis; the couple had two children, Richard and Valentina. Georgia continued in her role as Red's manager until the 1960s. In 1951, NBC beckoned Skelton to bring his radio show to television. His characters worked even better on screen than on radio; television also provoked him to create his second best-remembered character, Freddie the Freeloader, a traditional tramp whose appearance suggested the elder brother of the Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey Circus clown Emmett Kelly.
Many of Skelton's television shows have survived due to kinescopes, films, and videotapes and have been featured in recent years on PBS television stations. In addition, a number of excerpts from Skelton's television shows have been released on home video in both VHS and DVD formats.
Besides Freddie the Freeloader, Skelton's other television characters included Cauliflower McPugg, Clem Kaddiddlehopper, the Mean Widdle Boy, Sheriff Deadye, and San Fernando Red. Sometimes, during the sketches, Skelton would break up or cause his guest stars to laugh, not only on the live telecasts but the taped programs as well.
Skelton's weekly signoff -- "Good night and may God bless" -- became as familiar to television viewers as Edward R. Murrow's "Good night and good luck" or Walter Cronkite's "And that's the way it is".
Quite literally at the height of Skelton's popularity, his son was diagnosed with leukemia. In 1957 this was a virtual death sentence for any child. The illness and subsequent death of Richard Skelton at age 13 left Skelton unable to perform for much of the 1957-1958 television season. The show continued with guest hosts that included a very young Johnny Carson. CBS management was exceptionally understanding of Red's situation and no talk of cancellation was ever entertained by CBS president Paley. Skelton would seemingly turn on CBS and Paley after his show was cancelled by the network in 1970.
Red and Georgia divorced in 1971, and he remarried. In 1976, Georgia committed suicide by gunshot. Deeply affected by the loss of his ex-wife, Red would abstain from performing for the next decade and a half, finding solace only in painting clowns.
Skelton was inducted into the International Clown Hall of Fame in 1989, but as Kadiddlehopper showed, he was more than an interpretive clown. One of his best-known routines was "The Pledge of Allegiance," in which he explained the pledge word by word. Another Skelton staple, a pantomime of the crowd at a small town parade as the American flag passes by, reflected Skelton's essentially conservative, rural, Americana tastes.
Skelton frequently used the art of pantomime for his characters, using few props. He had a hat that he would use for his various bits, a floppy fedora that he would quickly mold into whatever shape was needed for the moment.
Skelton returned to live performance after his television days ended, in nightclubs and casinos and resorts, as well as performing such venues as Carnegie Hall. Many of those shows yielded segments that were edited into part of the Funny Faces video series on HBO's Standing Room Only. He also spent more time on his lifetime love of painting, usually of clown images, and his works began to attract prices over $80,000.
Red married for a third and last time in 1983 to the much younger Lothian Toland. She continues to maintain a website and business selling Skelton memorabilia and art prints.
Near the end of his life, Skelton said his daily routine included writing a short story a day. He collected the best stories in self-published chapbooks. He also composed music which he sold to background music services such as Muzak. Among his more notable compositions was his patriotic "Red's White and Blue March."
When he was presented with the Academy of Television Arts and Sciences' Governor's Award in 1986, he received a standing ovation. "I want to thank you for sitting down," Skelton said when the ovation subsided. "I thought you were pulling a CBS and walking out on me."
Red Skelton died in a hospital in Palm Springs, California of pneumonia on September 17, 1997. At the time of his death, he lived in Anza, California. He is buried in Forest Lawn Memorial Park Cemetery in Glendale, California.
In 2002 during the controversy over the phrase "under God," which had been added to U.S. Pledge of Allegiance in 1954, a recording of a monologue Skelton performed on his 1969 television show resurfaced. In the speech, he commented on the meaning of each phrase of the Pledge. At the end, he added: "Wouldn't it be a pity if someone said that is a prayer and that would be eliminated from schools too?" Given that Constitution advocates were arguing that the inclusion of "under God" in a pledge recited daily in U.S. public schools violated the First Amendment separation of church and state, Skelton suddenly regained popularity among religious conservatives who wanted the phrase to remain.
The Red Skelton Bridge spans the Wabash River and provides the highway link between Illinois and Indiana on U.S. Route 50, near his hometown of Vincennes, Indiana. The Red Skelton Performing Arts Center on the Vincennes University campus was constructed in 2006. A non-profit group in Skelton's hometown of Vincennes, began renovations in 2006 of the historic Vincennes Pantheon Theater, and the stage will be named in his honor. (from Wikipedia)
I live by this credo: Have a little laugh at life and look around you for happiness instead of sadness. Laughter had always brought me out of unhappy situations. Even in your darkest moment, you usually can find something to laugh about if you try hard enough.
God’s children and their happiness are my reasons for being.
There are three stages of life; youth, middle age and "Gee, you look good!"
I don’t want to be called ‘the greatest’ or ‘one of the greatest’; let other guys claim to be the best. I just want to be known as a clown because to me that’s the height of my profession. It means you can do everything-sing, dance, and above all, make people laugh.
Today’s comics use four-letter words as a shortcut to thinking. They’re shooting for that big laugh and it becomes a panic thing, using four-letter words to shock people.
Mom used to say I didn't run away from home my destiny just caught up with me at an early age.
REFLECTING ON HIS LIFE ... I'd have avoided some of the pain if I could. Anyone would. But I wouldn't have missed knowing any of the people—even the ones whose leaving hurt most. In fact, the only thing I'm sorry about is that I didn't meet one particular guy, a clown named Joe Skelton. You know, he sure picked the right profession. I mean, a clown’s got it all. He never has to hold back: He can do as he pleases. The mouth and the eyes are painted on. So if you wanta cry, you can go right ahead. The make up won't smear. You'll still be smiling. . . ." "All men make mistakes, but married men find out about them sooner."
(from "1,911 Best Things Anybody Ever Said," )
PLEDGE OF ALLEGIANCE by Red Skelton
Red Skelton’s presentation of the Pledge of Allegiance recently on “The Red Skelton Hour” on the CBS Television Network produced thousands of letters and phone calls during the week following its broadcast. The public’s reaction was unanimous in congratulating the comedian for one of the season’s most memorable moments. A transcript of Skelton’s recital follows:
PLEDGE OF ALLEGIANCE
Getting back to schools, I remember a teacher I had. I only went through the 7th grade in school. I left home at ten years old because I was hungry. I'd work in the summer and go to school in the winter. I remember this one teacher. To me, he was the greatest teacher, a real sage of my time. He had such wisdom. We were all reciting the Pledge of Allegiance, and he walked over. Mr. Lasswell was his name…Mr. Lasswell. He said: (Red Becomes the Old Man) “I've been listening to you boys and girls recite the Pledge of Allegiance all semester and it seems as though it is becoming monotonous to you. If I may, may I recite it and try to explain to you the meaning of each word:
I – me, an individual, a committee of one. PLEDGE – dedicate all of my worldly goods to give without self-pity. ALLEGIANCE – my love and my devotion. TO THE FLAG – our standard, Old Glory, a symbol of freedom. Wherever she waves, there is respect because your loyalty has given her a dignity that shouts freedom is everybody’s job. OF THE UNITED – that means that we have all come together. STATES OF AMERICA – individual communities that have united into 48 great states, 48 individual communities with pride and dignity and purpose, all divided with imaginary boundaries, yet united to a common purpose, and that’s love for country. AND TO THE REPUBLIC – Republic…a state in which sovereign power is invested in representatives chosen by the people to govern. And government is the people and it’s from the people to the leaders, not from the leaders to the people. FOR WHICH IT STANDS. ONE NATION – the nation… UNDER GOD – meaning, so blessed by God. INDIVISIBLE – incapable of being divided. WITH LIBERTY – which is freedom and the right of power to live one’s own life without threats, or fear or some sort of retaliation. AND JUSTICE – the principle or quality of dealing fairly with others. FOR ALL. – which means, boys and girls, it’s as much your country as it is mine.
And now, boys and girls, let me hear you recite the Pledge of Allegiance.
I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands. One nation, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.
Since I was a small boy, two states have been added to our country and two words have been added to the Pledge of Allegiance – “under God.”
Wouldn't it be a pity if some one said, “That’s a prayer” and that would be eliminated from schools, too?
ABOUT FREDDY THE FREELOADER:
I get asked all the time; Where did you get the idea for Freddie the Freeloader, and who is Freddie really?
Well, I guess you might say that Freddie the Freeloader is a little bit of you, and a little bit of me, a little bit of all of us, you know. He’s found out what love means. He knows the value of time. He knows that time is a glutton. We say we don't have time to do this or do that. There’s plenty of time. The trick is to apply it. The greatest disease in the world today is procrastination.
And Freddie knows about all these things. And so do you. He doesn't ask anybody to provide for him, because it would be taken away from you. He doesn't ask for equal rights if it’s going to give up some of yours. And he knows one thing ... that patriotism is more powerful than guns.
He’s nice to everybody because he was taught that man is made in God’s image. He’s never met God in person and the next fella just might be him.
I would say that Freddie is a little bit of all of us."
(from Red Skelton’s Funny Faces video)
I only come to life when there are people watching.
I'm nuts and I know it. But so long as I make ‘em laugh, they ain’t going to lock me up.
Our principles are the springs of our actions. Our actions, the springs of our happiness or misery. Too much care, therefore, cannot be taken in forming our principles.
His death was the first time that Ed Wynn ever made anyone sad.
No matter what your heartache may be, laughing helps you forget it for a few seconds.
I personally believe that each of us was put here for a purpose - to build not to destroy. If I can make people smile, then I have served my purpose for God.

"Have a little laugh at life and look around you for happiness instead of sadness. Laughter has always brought me out of unhappy situations."
The time has come to say good night, My how time does fly. We've had a laugh, perhaps a tear, and now we hear good-bye.
I really hate to say good night, for times like these are few. I wish you love and happiness, In everything you do.
The time has come to say good night, I hope I've made a friend. And so we'll say “May God bless you," Until we meet again
April 21

There's something about Mayberry and Mayberry folks that never leaves you. No matter where life takes you,
you always carry in your heart memories of old times and old friends. ~ Andy
Do a good day's work and act like somebody. ~ Andy
Well, Winken'll tell Blinken, Blinken'll tell Nod,
Nod'll tell Barney ... and Barney'll tell you. ~ Andy to Opie
If you eat any more you'll swell up so tight your freckles will fall off!!!
~ Andy
Bet you a quarter she forgot a brown paper sack
full of sandwiches.
I've never been on a trip before
that I didn't have to take a
brown paper sack full of sandwiches. ~ Andy

Andy's Southernisms: (about Barney) That boy is as nervous as a cat in room full of rocking chairs. (about something frustrating) It was like trying to sew buttons on custard pie.
(to Aunt Bee)
Aaain't Bea, you are the button in the Cap of Kindness!
Ain't we pickin our peaches 'fore they're fuzzed up good?
~ Andy
And that's also the biggest crock of nothing I've ever heard!! ~ Andy
Barney, I don't believe that dog could find his own food dish.
~ Andy
If somebody ask you to marry them,
the polite thing to do is marry them back.
~ Andy
(Talking about Barney while
Barn was trying to set Ange up with a new girl) Whatever I did to deserve all this attention from him,
I ain't never gonna' do it again.
~ Andy
Barney: You wanna be taken over by women? Andy: I wouldn't mind ~ Barney & Andy
When his time comes he aint gonna go like other people,
he just gonna nasty away. ~ Andy
That's a fine system you got there Barney.
You ought to write a book on it - call it
"The Barney Fife Subconscious Prober Primer." ~ Andy
You beat anything, Barney, you know that? You beat anything! ~ Andy

Barney: I don't look too Ivy League do I? Andy: Oh, no ... you're in a league all by yourself. ~ Barney & Andy
Oh, you're funny, aren't you!?
You ought to get a cane and cigar and work at a carnival!! ~ Barney
You just wanna rile me so you can see that vein stick out in my neck!
You like that don't you! ~ Barney
You know Andy, there's no better feeling
than knowing you were perfect. ~ Barney
Fly away buzzard, fly away crow, way down south where the winds don't blow, rub your nose & give two winks & save us from this awful jinx ~ Barney
My mother, your mother, lives across the way. Every night, they have a fight and this is what they say: Icka backa, soda cracker, icak backa boo,
icka backa soda cracker, out goes you!
~ Barney (Jumping Rope)
(Postcard from Barney,on vacation in Raleigh) Having fun,but money sure doesn't last long.
Been here three days and already have gone through $10! ~ Barney
You got to understand this is a small town.
The sheriff is more than just a sheriff-he's a friend.
And people in this town,
they ain't got a better friend than Andy Taylor!
~ Barney
I'm a deadly weapon. ~ Barney
Well ... it ain't a whim anymore
if you put on clean underwear.
~ Barney
I don't know, ya try, and ya try, and ya try,
and what do ya get HEARTACHES ~ Barney
One thing about Gypsies though, they're moody!
~ Barney
Nip it. Nip it. Nip it in the bud. ~ Barney
Nothin but dogs Andy,
why, if you flew a quail through here
every woman in here'd point. ~ Barney

A penny hit by lightnin' is worth six cents. ~ Opie
Barney: Where you goin'? Opie: I'm leavin'. You're a sight. ~ Opie
Opie: Pa what are we having for supper? Andy: You and Aunt Bee are having fried chicken,
and I'm having crow.
~ Opie & Andy

Past the hand holding stage and ready to set the date. ~ Aunt Bee
Oh, fibbertigibbet! ~ Aunt Bee
(trying to calm Aunt Bee after she sees the broken rose) Now remember Aunt Bee,
we've still got our money and pep,
and lots of good weather ahead! ~ Andy
Put that in your soda and sip it!
~ Miss Ellie
It's just a haircut, it isn't a brain operation
~ Floyd
Floyd: Love just happens. Two people just fall together. Andy: What do you know about love!? Floyd: What do I know?!! What ... about ... Lov ...
You can't cut hair for 30 years without learning SOMETHING!! ~ Andy & Floyd
Andy, take that thing away from him before he kills us all!! ~ Otis
Andy: Otis, you feel up to face the world? Otis: Yeah, but I don't know if the world is up to facing me! ~ Andy & Otis
Barney: He got the drop on me! Andy: He had a gun? Barney: Well, he has now!
~ Andy/Barney
during our lifetime we travel many roads some big roads some little roads rocky roads and smooth roads dirt highways and improved highways ~ Barney to Gomer

Miss Bee, three cuts of pie is my high water mark. ~ Briscoe Darlin
Gomer: You might be mashin' down too hard
on your acceleration, an' floodin' 'er out. Barney: I'll handle this Gomer. Thelma Lou: I think Gomer's right, I smell gas.
Do you smell gas, Andy? Andy: I smell gas. Opie: I smell gas. Gomer: I smell gas. Aunt Bee: I smell gas too. Barney: ALRIGHT, ALRIGHT, ALRIGHT!
You smell gas! Of COURSE you smell gas! What do you think this car runs on, COAL?
~ Barney's new car
Remembering Simpler Times
The Andy Griffith Show debuted at 9:30 on the evening of Monday, October 3, 1960, and ran for 249 episodes, 90 of which were color. Its spin-off episode was on The Danny Thomas Show where Danny was arrested by a sheriff in a small town in North Carolina. The Andy Griffith Show has not been off the air since it went into syndication a quarter of a century ago.
Mayberry Trivia
Number of times Barney wore a dress: 3. Number of times Barney accidentally fired his pistol: 8. 3 into courthouse floor, 1 into courthouse ceiling, 2 into the air, 1 into Andy's front porch, and 1 into a tire on a squad car. Number of panes of glass and/or windows broken by someone: 23. Percentage of that glass broken by Ernest T. Bass: 78%. Things wrong with the car Barney bought from "Hubcaps" Lesh for $297.50: plugs, points, bearings, valves, rings, fuel pump, starter switch, ignition wires, water pump, oil pump, clutch, clutch bearings, clutchplate, brake lining, brake shoes, radiator hose cover, sawdust in the transmission. And it could stand a good wash. Number of stoplights in Mayberry: 1. Number of miles on Aunt Bee's car: 145,000. Number of steps up to the Taylors' front porch: 2. Number of steps up to the church (which isn't air-conditioned): 6. Number of jars of Miracle Salve delivered to Andy's house: 946. The squad car is a Ford Galaxie. Visiting hours at the jail are from 2:00 PM to 4:00 PM. Andy doesn't own a lawn mower - he borrows one from his neighbors, the Wilsons. Barney once frisked his mother at a roadblock. This is the only time she appeared on the show. She had one line: "But Barney, I'm your mother!" Barney bought his parents a concrete, steel-reinforced septic tank for their anniversary one year. Andy and Barney are cousins (sometimes anyway). Barney's landlady is Mrs. Mendelbright (pronounced "Mrs. BrendelMright"by Barney once when he was gassed). Barney the realtor thinks he can sell the Taylors' house for $24,000. The bank vault has a back door (the real door hadn't been opened in 15 years because they lost the combination and the company that made it went out of business, although a crook once opened the door). Barney was the town band's standby cymbalist (they had no regular cymbalist). Aunt Bee wears glasses when she does sewing and stuff.
April 13
Middle Aged CRAZY
There is a thing that happens in middle age ... It's not a secret and it's not profound. It just is the way that it is.
Most of us at middle age, look at our lives and have strong feelings about the disparity between who we thought we would be and who we are.
Books and movies have been written about what happens next ...
Some people attempt to self-correct, choosing a new career or working extra hard at the one they already have, but what happens after you have a wall full of degrees and awards and you still don't feel validated?
It doesn't always end badly. IT's never to late to become what we might have been. I knew a Dr. who quit his medical practice and joined a medical missionary team and loves what he is doing now. Colonel Sanders was in his 50s when he started Kentucky Fried Chicken.
Some people get divorced and look for someone new to help them feel those "fresh" feelings, but what happens after the "new" wears off and you find yourself feeling bored with this "soul mate"? I can't even begin to count the relationships I have seen come and go in the land of Middle Aged Crazy!
Some people choose to embark on an adventure. I have an uncle who retired and spent the next few years, traveling around in a RV. I have another uncle who sold everything, but what he could fit in a van and traveled around, buying and selling antiques for a living. I knew another woman who sold everything she had and bought a Harley Davidson and rode it across country.
Some people make a geographical move ... thinking they might find more inspiration in living by the sea ... or the mountains ... or North ... or South ... or East ... or West, but what happens when they realize that all they really changed was their geography?
Some people make little changes ... plastic surgery: a nip or tuck ... quit smoking ... quit drinking ... change their diet or their exercise routine. They look better and feel better physically, but there's still something missing. What could it be?
Other people just go PLAIN CRAZY ...
I've been crazy too. If you are feeling a little "crazy" yourself, this article might be helpful to you:
Is midlife a quest or crisis?
Midlife Crisis? Bring It On! - TIME
What does a female midlife crisis look like, anyway? A big face-lift, a little red car, an overdose, an affair, an escape to the Galapagos Islands? Or none of the above?
It is both a stable truth and an unsettling one that our lives loop and twist from age to age. The baby toddles into childhood, the child erupts into a teen, then a woman, who by the time she has passed 40 is long overdue to shed her skin again. That shedding can be traumatic, treacherous, born of sorrow or stress; but to hear the prophets of personal reinvention tell it, it may also be an unexpected gift. With that endearing sense of discovery that baby boomers bring to the most enduring experiences--like growing up or finding God or burning out--women are confronting the obstacles of middle age and figuring out how to turn them into opportunities. Thanks to higher incomes, better education and long experience at juggling multiple roles, women may actually discover that there has never been a better time to have a midlife crisis than now.
Sue Shellenbarger was 49, living in Oregon and writing her "Work & Family" column for the Wall Street Journal, when in the space of two years she got divorced, lost her father, drained her bank account and developed a taste for wilderness camping and ATV riding that left her crumpled up on an emergency-room gurney. "People around me thought I'd taken leave of my senses," she says. A few months later, "I was in a sling, trying to type with my broken collarbone, on the phone with one of my editors, and we were laughing about it." At that point, she says ...
"I realized a midlife crisis is a cliche until you have one."
Fast-forward two years: this spring she published The Breaking Point: How Female Midlife Crisis Is Transforming Today's Women, which suggests that the national conversation is about to have a hot flash. The passage through middle age of so large a clump of women--there are roughly 43 million American women ages 40 to 60--guarantees that some rules may have to be rewritten and boundaries moved to accommodate them. That was part of the inspiration for Shellenbarger's book.
"I thought I could help other women see this coming in their lives, and not only avoid doing damage to others but capitalize on it."
In fact, the very word crisis, while suitably dramatic, seems somehow wrong for this generation's experience. Unlike their mothers and unlike the men in their lives, this cohort of women is creating a new model for what midlife might look like. Researchers have found that the most profound difference in attitude between men and women at middle age is that women are twice as likely to be hopeful about the future. Women get to wrestle their hormones through a Change of Life; but however disruptive menopause may be for some women, the changes that matter most are often more psychic and spiritual than physical.
Talk to women about what happens when they hit midlife hurdles--whether divorce or disease, an empty nest, the loss of a parent--and very often the response is a surprise even to them. They may first turn inward, ask the cosmic questions or retrieve some passion they put aside to make room for a career and family and adult responsibilities. Take a trip. Write a novel. Go back to school. Learn to kite board. But then, having done something to help themselves, they have a powerful urge to help others. Best of all is when they can do both at once.
Among the growing ranks of female entrepreneurs are many who have sensed a massive Midlife Marketing Opportunity. Women are natural marketers, even of their worst fears. Their instinct when they get in trouble is to talk about it with other women. So once they have weathered the crisis, they are ready to become crisis managers. The hospice nurse opens a consulting firm to help women handle their aging parents. The escrow officer becomes a personal trainer specializing in older women. The Harvard M.B.A. with three kids opens a temp agency specializing in placing part-time manager moms. Or in the Extreme Makeover version, Martha Stewart emerges from prison kinder, gentler and declaring,
"Our passion is and always should be to make life better."
More and more people see not a crisis but a challenge--even an opportunity, observes Deborah Carr, a sociology professor at Rutgers University. "How are they going to spend the second half of their life? They know they're going to have lots of healthy years, so I think it's a period of making choices to live out one's dreams that got put on the shelf during younger years."
When Canadian psychoanalyst Elliot Jacques coined the term midlife crisis back in 1965, he was not talking about a man who, upon turning 40, wakes up the next morning afraid he is going to die, goes in for hair plugs, buys a Porsche and runs off with a cupcake. He was studying creative genius and found that for many artists productivity began to decline as they reached middle age and wrestled with their own mortality. Never a legitimate clinical diagnosis, it was more like a handy way of describing the perfectly predictable process whereby every so often people looked around at their lives and asked, often in loud and expensive ways, "Is this it?"
Or at least, men did. That was around the time that Betty Friedan was writing about "the problem that has no name," after she surveyed several hundred of her Smith classmates and found that most of them were unhappy in middle age. "If they had a midlife crisis, they didn't talk about it," says Jane Glenn Haas, founder of WomanSage, a nonprofit group that supports midlife women. "Women today realize that their mothers never had a sense of their options." Haas, now 67, shocked her family when she left her first husband 27 years ago. "They said to me, 'Why are you doing this?' I said, 'I'm not happy.' My mother said, 'Who told you that you were entitled to be happy?'"
The present generation of women tend to bring different expectations to their middle passage. "To the extent there is any midlife crisis, to women it does not come as an enormous surprise," says Tace Hedrick, a University of Florida associate professor of women's studies. "Men wake up at 45 and realize, 'I'm not 18 anymore.' But women, their biological clock is ticking. They are constantly reminded that they are aging." The regular reminders of fertility are replaced by the insistent signals of menopause. Anthropologists say male status is typically tied to money and power, which explains why the standard male midlife crisis is triggered by a career crack-up.
Women's turmoil often reflects events in their personal lives as well as the accumulated stress of years of ladder climbing, multitasking and barrier breaking. Nearly three-quarters of women from 40 to 54 in a Yankelovich Monitor study said life is "much too complicated."
Many feel that along the way, while they were getting their promotion or having their kids or managing their households, they set aside something important that they want to retrieve--their hiking boots, their screenplay, a law degree. "Everybody I know has a version of this," says Susan Reimer-Torn, now a life coach in New York City ...
"Phase I, you kind of put all the pieces together in your mid- or late 20s, and it almost always involves some kind of trade-off. You figure out what you absolutely must have and end up giving up something else. But in Phase II, which generally occurs after 40, many women begin to review the terms of that original trade-off. For me, my career and where I lived seemed to be a dispensable piece of the puzzle in the first phase, but at Phase II, they were not.
If there's a Phase III, it may be taking your life in a whole new direction. Often a collision of the personal and professional triggers the reinvention."
For Dr. Lisa Friedman, 52, it started when the internist had breast cancer diagnosed in September 2001. During the course of her treatment, she came to think about what she loved about being a doctor and what she hated. She loved spending time with her patients. She hated being sued by them (three malpractice suits, all of which she won). "It's a total, life-changing experience to go through a malpractice case. It's gut-wrenching," she recalls. So she thought about the possible escape routes, and now finds herself building a second career selling upscale women's clothing at trunk sales in her home in Madison, Wisconsin, to other women like herself who couldn't find what they needed at the local mall. The hours are flexible. Eventually she may start selling clothes exclusively, but she isn't ready to give up her practice yet. "I thought, God, this is really fun," she says, "and no one is going to sue me because they didn't like the color of their skirt."
WOMEN VS. MEN: HOW MIDLIFE IS DIFFERENT
Maybe the male midlife crisis stereotypically took the form of nifty new wheels because most men didn't grow up idealizing work. It was a means of putting food on the table and showing who was boss; actual happiness and satisfaction usually had to come from someplace else. In contrast, professional women, having fought so hard to break into fields that were once closed to them, often expect more from their jobs. If they are unhappy at 45, disenchanted with corporate politics or discouraged because they are not making a contribution to some larger good, they are typically willing to think of trying something completely new in a search for greater flexibility or challenge or satisfaction.
So while some women may follow the classic male model in certain superficial ways--buying motorcycles in record numbers (up 34% in the past five years) and getting divorced (two-thirds of divorces among people 40 to 70 are initiated by the woman)--many realize that a new toy or a new lover can do only so much for one's sense of well being over the long term. Researchers have found that women tend to take a hardheaded look at how their lives are unfolding and where they want to be 10 or 20 years down the road, when they are more than twice as likely as men to be living alone. And when women weigh their prospects, says Elaine Wethington, a Cornell University sociologist who specializes in midlife, they are "more likely to talk about growth, making the best of it."
That optimism takes many forms. Surveys find that middle-aged women think they will stay healthy longer. They are joining gyms at twice the rate of their male peers. Full-time college enrollment by older women is up 31% in the past decade. The National Center on Women & Aging at Brandeis University in Waltham, Mass., found that women age 50 plus said they feel happier about getting older than they thought they would. There is a kind of virtuous cycle created when women feel more confident about their coping skills. "They are better at coming to grips with problems because they believe that they can," says Wethington. "And solving problems then feeds back and gives you a sense of mastery of life."
The psychoanalyst Carl Jung explained how in middle age people tend to drop the roles they were playing, outgrow their pretenses. Some women become more willing to take risks as they grow less concerned about what others think. Women who submerged their identity when their children were young may feel a sense of liberation once they are older. Even the death of a parent, while painful and a frequent trigger of midlife depression, can free women from the burden of expectations, as they ask, Who am I doing all this for anyway? Shellenbarger cites research that found men's "dream fulfillment" goes downhill from their mid-30s on; women, who tend to put their dreams in the sock drawer during their main child-rearing years, actually become dreamier as they get older; 36% of those between 50 and 64 reported that they had fulfilled a dream, compared with 24% of younger women and 28% of their male peers.
The dream for many women involves starting a business of their own. As economic confidence and corporate loyalty decline, says Mary Furlong, executive professor of entrepreneurship at Santa Clara University in California, people are looking for a sense of control. "What they're not trusting," she says, "is that big corporate America is going to provide for them. They want to be involved in a creative environment but not have it dominate their lives the way it did when they were selling on the road 80 hours a week for IBM." Plus, Furlong adds, going into business for yourself is fun, especially for women longing for a sense of adventure. "I don't think boomers are going to join the Junior League and have tea," she says. When they do the cost/benefit analysis of staying in a job they dislike or taking a leap of faith, more and more women are ready to jump. "I think part of the elixir is the learning. Part is the control. Part of the reason is just the idea, 'I better take control of my own nest egg because no one else is going to.'"
A decade ago, Abby Waters, now 46, was a sales rep for a pharmaceutical company in Boca Raton, Fla., and was "totally miserable." Come Sunday night, she would dread Monday morning: "It got to the point where we were just dropping samples at the doctors' offices." That was 1994. She quit her job and wandered around for the next few years looking for a better idea. "You talk about a midlife crisis," she says. She had money troubles; her marriage fell apart. And she turned 40. "My friend called from the Carolinas. I told her, 'I don't want to go to my 40th birthday party,'" Waters recalls. That year, 1998, she licensed a slipcover design and tried to market it. After discovering how hard that was to do, she started Abby's Idea Factory to help inventors turn their ideas into products. Last spring a guy named Kent Chamberlain walked in with the idea of developing a power beer for people after they work out. Waters hated beer. But she liked Kent. So she started thinking about a different kind of beer, one designed for women like her. "The big companies had looked at a beer for women and shied away because the product was watery," she says. She began poring over beer recipes and came up with a 200-year-old brew that used rose hips. Her Honey Amber Rose is only 110 calories per bottle and carries a logo of a Latin-looking woman in a broad-brimmed red hat and a red dress with folds resembling a rose. "If you want to taste sweet success," the bottle says, "look for the woman in the rose-petal dress."
Chamberlain is now Waters' partner in life and business. Their beer, launched in November, won a silver medal just three months later from the Florida Brewers Guild. Southern Wine & Spirits, the biggest liquor distributor in the country, put in an order. "I think in your 40s you're wise enough to have the guts, and you figure, 'What the hell. What's the worst thing that can happen? You've got to get a regular job?'" Waters says. "My stepfather on his dying bed said, 'If only I had ...,'" she says. "I don't want to have regrets."
THE NEXT GOLD MINE: MIDLIFE AS AN INDUSTRY
From coast to coast, women of all backgrounds are essentially opening up the Great Midlife Lemonade Stand, taking the bitter taste of aging and making it sweet, satisfying. This is both noble and shrewd. Women like helping other women, and as it happens, just as women reach their moment of self-doubt, they also ripen into the perfect market segment. "You can make a ton of money," agrees Shellenbarger. "Let's face it. These women with their fat pocketbooks approach the age of 50 and lose their inhibitions. Imagine that! That's a lot of spending. The other thing that research shows will open people's pocketbooks is sadness, and for a lot of people, midlife crisis can be quite sad. And if you strike out in new directions after your crisis, you spend. If you are pursuing a dream, your primary focus is not going to be frugality. You're going to be out there buying stuff."
And it is a market that many established companies haven't figured out or are scared to talk to. "Marketers are obsessed with 16-to-24-year-olds while substantially ignoring the largest, richest cohort of women in the history of humanity," marvels Bob Garfield, advertising critic for Advertising Age. "It's bizarre how focused people are on children when the baby boom is just sitting there with hundreds of billions of dollars of discretionary income and very few kids left in the house to spend it on." Women make the majority of purchasing decisions. "The marketers I talked to for my research, I was expecting to find many of them poised to profit big on this pattern," Shellenbarger says. "But they didn't understand it. They were asking me questions--How does this play out? What do women want?"
For entrepreneurs with a smart answer, these are gold-rush days. "Anybody who is making pants with elastic waists is cleaning up," laughs Sharon Hadary, executive director of the Center for Women's Business Research in Washington. Curves International, a women's-only gym franchise aimed at the over-35 group, is the fastest-growing franchise of any kind in history, including McDonald's. Ninety percent of the franchise owners are women. Curves doubled in size from 1997 to 1998, from 247 to 537 locations, and now has more than 9,000 locations around the globe, the world's biggest fitness franchise. Tammy Parkinson, 42, who left the real estate industry to start her own personal-training and nutritional-consulting business in Los Gatos, Calif., thinks the fitness focus makes a huge difference. "We lower cholesterol, blood pressure, help them lose weight," she says. "Some of these people, I don't know where they'd be if they hadn't started a program."
THE BEST ESCAPE ROUTES
When women find a key to solving their own midlife mysteries, they often want nothing more than to help other women do the same. That typically involves some kind of journey, often a literal one. For Jennifer Wright, a divorced assistant professor of occupational therapy in Indianapolis, Ind., the epiphany came seven years ago, when she was 46 and on an intense four-day backpacking adventure in Nevada with her 21-year-old son. Up to that point, she says, women like her "may have been spending a good deal of our life taking care of everyone else. We come to the place where we say, 'It's my turn.' If women get there, they get there with fervor." The transcendent confidence Wright acquired on that trip ultimately inspired her to move to--of all places--New Zealand and become what she calls an "adventure coach." She leads hiking trips through rugged scenery--a "midlife, middle-earth adventure" on the Banks Peninsula Track in New Zealand. But Wright also emphasizes the internal journey: "You step out of time. You don't know what day it is, what time it is. You eat when you're hungry. And when you come back, you are changed."
The notion that the way to launch a spiritual journey is to take an actual trip is fueling the adventure-travel market, especially since many adventure travelers are women in their 40s. Women who want company but don't have family or friends who feel like rafting in Costa Rica seek out a new breed of travel agency--like Gutsy Women Travel, founded by Gail Golden, 55, wife of former TWA boss Carl Icahn. Half the women who sign on for her trips are married, but their husbands aren't interested in taking cooking classes in Italy or visiting gardens in Savannah. "He likes the fact that she is safe, traveling with an escorted group and comes back happy because she has fulfilled her travel dream," says Golden.*space"I don't think women afford themselves the luxury of a midlife crisis because they have too much responsibility," she adds. "But there is internal pressure and the need to release themselves. It's self-serving for me to say that Gutsy Women Travel does that. But some of these women have never been on trips on their own, without children and husbands. By the end of the first night, women are hugging each other and telling their life stories. You remember when you were young and had a pajama party? Well, we're only taller."
GUIDES FOR THE INNER JOURNEY
To serve women in need of ongoing support and guidance, there is the growing army of life coaches who, once again, are often women looking to turn their midlife experience into a career. Cynthia Barnett, a longtime teacher and school administrator in Connecticut, left education two years ago to start educating women. She holds regular retreats at a beach house for a dozen or so women at a time. "They get to a point where they feel, well, my children are gone, I feel like I have an empty nest now, so what's me? They seem to feel the need to have somebody help them through the process." Kimberly Fulcher, who ran a software company in California's Silicon Valley, was lucky enough to have an early midlife crisis--at 28--before the dotcom crash, and sold the business while it was still valuable. She trained as a life coach and built a clientele of women she coaches by phone for a monthly fee of $500 to $1,000. Hoping to find an efficient way to reach women with fewer disposable dollars, she launched in late January an online version of Compass Life Designs, an affordable coaching program that costs $37 a month. That buys women access to three teleconference workshops and an online library of workshops, plus digital workbooks.
Debra Engle, 48, and Diane Glass, 57, both high-powered corporate marketing executives in Des Moines, Iowa, had done focus groups with a financial-planning firm interested in offering workshops for midlifers struggling with retirement planning. On the basis of that research, Engle and Glass, having rounded their own midlife corners, ended up starting a new venture on their own. Engle had recently remarried, 16 years after a divorce. Glass got breast cancer, which triggered the re-evaluation that ended with a career change. In their focus groups, they had found that many midlifers didn't want to spend all their days working at something they disliked just so they could finance a 20-year vacation in their golden years. Plus, there was the "Oprah factor," as they call it, a growing emphasis on women nurturing themselves and helping others recharge and reinvent themselves, often by finding spirituality. "We realized that we were on to something, that we had a particular affinity for how women had made changes in midlife," says Engle. They decided to provide moral and practical support. Their plan is called Tending Your Inner Garden, "a program of spirituality and creativity just for women." They offer a yearlong course of workshops, dinners and retreats that costs $480. "Sitting around a table with a group of women is so much more than sharing a meal and nourishing our bodies," says Meredith Houle, 56, a satisfied customer. "I truly think it's nourishing our soul."
Though the initial impulse for many women seems to be to do something for themselves for once, the renewal that follows seems to draw them back toward caregiving. Four out of five women over 50 said having a job in which they help others is important to them, according to a joint study by the Simmons School of Management and Hewlett-Packard. "All the studies on spirituality and religion in America show women have a much higher rate of participation in religious and spiritual activities, and they rank service to community as more important than men do," Shellenbarger argues. "You're going to tell me that's really sexist, but I show that research has documented it. No one can exactly explain this, but religion and spirituality compel one to reach out to others in service."
Andree Bouty, 50, and Carolyn Morgan, 52, of Tucson, Ariz., both longtime hospice nurses, started Act Now RNs. Their mission: to make nursing available outside the hospital setting, to help families care for aging relatives by referring them to financial planners, assisted-living facilities, case managers and skilled nursing care. The staff, Bouty says, "is pretty much our age. It's all about getting in there and helping, doing something different and feeling good about what you're doing instead of just working for a paycheck." They knew their target audience was other midlife women: "We are historically and naturally the caregivers in our family ... the majority of our clients are the adult children trying to figure out what to do next."
There is no telling the impact this generation is going to have as it reinvents what it means to get older and applies its many blessings and ingenuity to the pursuit of health and happiness.
"As we age, everything for our generation is going to be different," says Susan Johnson, 54, who quit her job as a Washington lobbyist to become a consultant to families with aging parents and complex medical problems. "We're staying in shape. We're eating healthier. We're Internet savvy. As we start to get into our golden years, we'll be on the Internet, investigating drugs and protocols. And we'll seek help when we need it. If we need a consultant, we hire one. If we need a coach to teach the latest exercise in Pilates or whatever, we hire people. We are a generation that will continue to invent. We won't just accept what's laid out ahead for us." Now that many Americans, according to a survey, think that full-fledged adulthood begins at 26, there is room for multiple midlife crises. There is the "quarter-life crisis" that hits at 25, the traditional one in your 40s and still another 20 years later. We are living too long and too well to stay settled even in a contented state for more than a few years at a time. And with experience, each new life-cycle crisis stands a better chance of looking like just another chance to start all over again.
With reporting by Melissa August/Washington, Amanda Bower and Deirdre van Dyk/New York, Jeanne McDowell/Los Angeles, Siobhan Morrissey/Boca Raton, Betsy Rubiner/Des Moines and Leslie Whitaker/Chicago
I don't know if you or someone you know is nearing mid-life CRAZY, but if you are, there is no need to be afraid. We have already experienced some gains and losses, successes and failures ... that got us to where we are now. Life has been preparing us and equipping us for this time. Whatever crazy thing we find ourselves in, trust that everything happens for a reason. We are being challenged by the one person we can't run away from: ourselves. We are asking questions and demanding answers of ourselves, and we can find them if we are willing to truly look ourselves in the mirror, take a moral inventory, change the things that need to be changed and accept whatever we see, wrinkles, gray hair and all.
Come grow old along with me!
The best is yet to be!!!
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